Ok y'all... this weekend I have to be a bridesmaid in a wedding. The bride's family is quite wealthy, and she is the only daughter so this is a huge event. Tonight is a fancy dinner party. Tomorrow night is a big crawfish boil (I'm in Louisiana - think spicy seafood and free flowing beer). Saturday is a formal luncheon, then the wedding, then a huge reception with tons of food. Notice how everything revolves around food? Social eating is a big weakness of mine. And once I eat something bad, I tend to say screw it and eat everything bad for the rest of the event. I have got to learn how to handle these situations. They will always come up in life, and I want to eat healthy for life!

Help me y'all!!

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Julie, I know you can do anything you set your mind to. If I were in that situation I would first try to eat something before, so I wouldn't be starving when I got there. I'd tell myself before I went that I can have a certain ammount of food and drinks and then that will be it. I would try to stay away from people that are eating, find someone I don't know and start a conversation. And If all else fails and I overate just enjoy and remember that I won't be doing this on a daily basis and tomorrow's a new day.

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April <aprild@drivernet.com>

i talk to you on chat two days ago and i would really like it if you gave us a up date on how you did?


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[This message has been edited by needshelp (edited 07-14-2000).]

Julie fill up on water before attending. If you decide you're too weak to hold back then so be it. Monday is a new start. I know you will fill disappointed but it's a party and live it up. It's only one weekend.

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Jo-Anne
Diettalk Moderator

Julie, Joanne is right it is a party. You can't quit living til you get to your goal weight. Go and enjoy yourself. Eat in moderation. When the wedding is over and done you will not remember what you ate or didn't eat, but you will remember if you had a great time or not. Talking, laughing dancing, enjoying others that is what this wedding is all about NOT the food. It's there yes, but don't let it take center stage.
HOpe you have a great time.
Sandy

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Well, I maintained my weight over the weekend, so I'm pleased. I didn't eat terribly, but I didn't eat great either. One bad mistake I made was only eating a few ounces of chicken salad and 2 mimosas on the day of the wedding. My blood sugar got all screwed up (I'm hypoglycemic) and I ended up almost passing out during the ceremony and having to sit down for a few minutes during a really long prayer. Most people in the chapel didn't notice, thank goodness, but I felt terrible like I'd ruined the wedding. After I got some food in me and some rest, I realized that it wasn't that bad. It was a weird wild weekend though. Including the entire bridal party (myself included) but not the bride went to the bachelor party. And we got kicked out of the bar! Haha! Also the night before the wedding the bride had such bad cold feet that I took her aside and said "listen, all this money has been spent. all these people are here from across the country. go through with the ceremony, and if you still feel like this is the worst mistake of your life on Monday, then you can get an annullment." Scary huh!?? Anyway, it made me realize what a great relationship my husband and I have. And my dress fit perfectly and when my husband saw me he said "wow!" so I felt beautiful all night :) Thanks everyone for your concern and support, you are all wonderful.

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