Hi, it's been a really long time since I've been here and I'm so glad to be back. I've lost about 30 lbs. since Nov. mostly do to stress, then from healthy eating. I also quit smoking 8 days ago, and my appetite seems to be coming back with a vengance! I want to loose about 70 more lbs. I plan to do it by Eating more healthy, watching my portions, exercise, and not depriving myself, just watching what goes in my mouth. I'm just scared that i'll go back to smoking just for something to do with my hands and mouth. I can use all the support I can get.

Welcome back to diet talk April,
Congratulations on losing 30 pounds! You have done a super job! Best of luck on staying a non-smoker! Not to discourage you but I quit smoking last August 14, 2000 and gained 34 pounds! I believe since you have already started watching what you are eating that you will not do this! Just tell yourself that "Just because I quit smoking don't mean I can gain this weight back" Then just keep working at not smoking and start eating celery or carrots when you feel the need to munch! You can do it! The best of luck to you on staying a non-smoker for life and losing the remaining weight you want to lose!!! :o :o

Well it seems like I'm back at the same place I always find myself. Saying I'm going to take better care of myself and eat better and then a few weeks later, relize that I haven't done a thing about it! The latest excuse is that I've been having my own pitty party for the last week. It's kind of complicated but in a nut shell- someone who I really wanted to be in my life doesn't seem to want it as much as I do, he usually calls every other day or so and it's been a week and no call. I've called him and left messages and nothing. Being on the road all the time makes it even worse. So now I figure he is either not wanting to talk to me or he's hurt or worse. So now worrying and feeling sorry for myself I'm eating anything and everything. I told my self that the previous weightloss was for myself and not for him, but I'm begining to wonder. I feel like I have nothing to loose weight for. I still want to loose weight and take care of myself, but I can't seem to find the motivation. I guess I'm depressed and I hate it. :c(

Hey. You sound a lot like myself! I'm not going to tell you to just forget about him, cause that usually can't be done by normal people with feelings. Do try to stay busy with other things. Go out with friends or find an activity you like to do like walking or swimming. This will possiblly keep your mind off other things. I always said when I quit smoking I want to begin walking and then running. I always wanted to be a runner, but as is I can't even get up the stairs without running out've breath :laugh: Set a goal for yourself like that. When I did try and quit something that helped me was (this may sound strange to you)sucking on dry spagetti sticks. I could hold them just like a cigarette. It may help. Well, good luck getting back on track!

That's a good idea about using the spaghetti. I'll have to try it. It's really hard for me to do stuff to take my mind off the bad things, since I'm on the road for 3 or 4 weeks at a time. My phone bill last month was over $300 dollars, and I wasn't even depressed! Besides my friends at home are more screwed up then I am. 8-} Oh well, I did pretty bad with my eating the last few days, but I didn't smoke. :) Today I've done well with eating, and low and behold he called. We don't really have a relationship, right now he's just a really good friend, even though I would probably like more. I don't get along too well with my boyfriend, and it really stinks because I work with him. X-( but I have to resolve the boyfriend thing before I get into another relationship. I'm just so relieved that Dave is alright. I'm also very happy that I have my eating under control, at least for today. :)

That's a good idea baylee, but it scares me at the same time. I have to admit that the weight I have lost so far has been because of a new man in my life. I want to loose it for myself also, but not as much as for him. What do I do? What happens if I loose these 80 lbs. and then something happens between us? Do I just go with it for right now and worry about the rest if and when it happens? I don't want to gain the weight back if and when I loose it. I think I am using this obstacle as a way of doing nothing right now. The more I think about it the more I eat. I keep waking up every morning saying "this is a new day, you will start eating healthy and loose this weight" That attitude usually lasts until I sit down to eat. I'm so mad at myself. X-( HELP :c(

Ugh!!! I am feeling the same way you are. Funny but when I read your posts I think she shouldnt feel so bad and then I look and I have written the same thing like 5 minutes ago.......duh!!!!!!

April,

I sure agree about losing weight for yourself.

When you said you wake up every morning saying you will eat healthy and lose this weight, it sounds exactly like me and, just like you, it only lasted until I started eating. What has helped me has been baby steps. To suddenly decide that you are going to eat healthy may be just too daunting an idea. Break it down. Pick just one thing you can do.

For example, tomorrow morning when you are ready to have breakfast, choose a healthy one. Remind yourself that the rest of the day doesn't matter, only this breakfast. When you have a healthy breakfast, you have started. Don't even worry about what you eat the rest of the day. The next day, do the same thing. You can handle just a breakfast when there is no other pressure to be perfect. In a day or two, you will probably decide that you can handle one more change. Maybe you will pick lunch as your starting point, but you get the idea.

Even though none of us are perfect, we expect perfection when we are making changes. Take it easy on yourself.

I'm not sure I express this very well, but don't try to do everything at once. You can do this.

Karolyn

Hi Apple....hang in there my friend..it is really good that you quit smoking...you will be able to breathe so much better...you will lose the weight you want to also. I have faith in you..remember..when you pass through Ohio..especially Columbus..give me some notice and we will meet for dinner..two friends eating healthy...very healthy <smile> take care and keep in touch...email me anytime....misszipzip@aol.com

Debbi

Ok, enough is enough!!! Today I have recomitted myself to eating healthy and loosing weight. No more excuses, no more blaming others for my over-eating. I am in control of how other people affect me. I will not let MY life and health be affected by other's.

hi apple!
recomitting yourself to health and happiness is an excellent move :D
you are the only person that is responsible for what you eat and for how much you exercise.
as an emotional eater i know how easy it is to blame others etc. but you have to do this for you my friend.
there will be plenty of us right here with you, cheering you on. :x
hugs bell <IMG SRC="smilies/cool.gif" border="0">

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Leave it to me to get sick on the day I decide to totally take charge of myself and my eating. Ugh! I am back in the world of the living again.