I'm just tired of all the excerising and strict diet but i'm just not getting result!! i run 5km everyday and an hour of aerobics excerise but i just can't loss the extra 20 over pounds i gained over the past few years when i was a extreme bulimic. what should i do???

Lynn, how long have you been dietting? When did you start exercising? (I imagine you have been exercising for quite awhile if you are able to run 5 KM daily).
What are you eating? Are you keeping to at least 1200 calories a day?
I can understand all about binging. Are you going into the stop binging post and posting there?
Let us know so we (everyone here) can help you.
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How are your clothes fitting? Have you measured yourself? With that much exercise maybe you are gaing muscle, which weighs more than fat but takes up less space. Sooo is it possible that you are getting smaller but the scale isn't showing it?

Hi Lynn.
how many cals are you eating? i found when i am exercising a lot i needed to increase my cals as the exercise i was doing was burning off so many cals that my body wasnt getting enough calories if that makes sense.
for example if i was eating 1500 cals but burning off 400-500 a day then my body felt it was starving and would hold on to the fat and i wouldnt lose. when i upped my cals i started losing again.
hugs bell :)

Thanks guys! you guys are great!! i'm overwelmed by all your replies! Thanks Julia, wildcat, emily and bell! Thanks for your support!!

Cheers!:cheers:

I think i might be eat lesser calories than what my body need. I don't exactly count the calories i consume but i'm very sure i'm consuming lesser than 1800 everyday and these consist of wholemeal bread, lean boiled chicken, low fat protein shakes(when i do weights), and fruits and vegetable.
I even had a personal trainer to train me for a while, even he was amazed by how hard i push myself and how discipline i am but we're just not getting the kinda results expected. It's very demoralising when you workout everyday so hard and yet you don't see results at all.. sigh... i don't really don know what's wrong too!

After a little math to convert your height to inches...you're 5 5 which means that your weight is in the healthy range. 108 is not. So, maybe you are not losing any weight because there is none to lose. It is a very common problem with anorexic/bulemics (trust me, I was anorexic in high school and now that I am fat I realize I just looked sickly not good back then). We just don't see what others see. We always see ourselves as fat, fat and more fat.

It is almost impossible to find impartial judges of how we look, so, I have a suggestion, go to your doctor and discuss the problem with them. They are the best judge and they are trained to be impartial.

I send lots of love your way and strenth, too. I know how awful it is to look in the mirror and never see a change (heck, I've lost almost 30 pounds and I still think I look the same). Please PM me if you need any support.

If you still think you need to lose some pounds, try adding more protein and counting your calories to make sure you are getting to at least 1200 (probably should be 1500 with all the exercise you do).

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Thanks perfect for your advice... in fact i was seeing a psychatist for a while and he even prescrible me anti depression pills to make me feel better. Later through the net i found that the pill will actually cause weight gain and i was horrified thus i stop the pills and eventually stop seeing him.
I have a body fats of about 30% which is a lot!!! So i really need to reduce that.

btw, i'm really really new here so i don't know how to private message and stuff like that. pls help. And thanks for replying once again:)

You should try weight-lifting.

I'm 5'5'' too! And my short term goal is 110, so very simalar to you! I don't think I exercise as much though...I track all my foods on fitday, and try to keep each week's average around 1000-1200. I usually go clubbing with friends on Sat. night, whichs adds alot of calories, so I eat 300-700 each weekday. Anyway, doing this I've platued at 120-115 for the last month and half, but figure if I keep it up, the wieght will come off eventully, and I bet yours will too. If I don't track what I eat and just eat when hungry etc, I stay at 135 which I find unacceptable. I have seen those healthy wieght tables, (after all I'm a nurse), but (PLEASE DON"T EVERYONE TAKE OFFENSE) I don't think they are apllicable to my age group. (because I rarley see girls in anything but the bottom or below for my height). I want to be about 100, and no I don't want to look like I'm starving or dying, just very thin. Funny thing is, the closer I get to being really thin, the worse I feel about not being really thin, so my advice is to not focus all your enery and thoughts on your body. I wish I could follow that, but I desperatly believe my life will improve and I will be happy if I am thin and lovely, so if that is your mindset and you can't change it, then I would start tracking your calories, and keep up all the great work exercising, I know it will pay off!!!!!

Yeah, but who makes thoses charts? And I've seen different ranges for my height. And I'm trying to lose weight not just to improve my health, but to improve my BODY IMAGE, which is the topic of disscussion here. The chart says I'm not posing overweight related health risks to my self by being 117-130, but it doesn't get into the fact that at 118, I am way larger than other girls at the beach, or that I can't wear a mini skirt, etc, etc. When I was in France last year, I had a magazine that had a simalar table, and the girls my age there laughed their faces off. How many models and actresses would fit into that table?

Raven,...Ummm....to get your RDA of vitamins Raven you HAVE TO eat more than 300-700 calories a day. 300-700 calories a day is unhealthy for anyone (I'm sure you already knew that being a nurse).

Lynn, to Personal Message someone, just look at the bottom of their post and press PM. Also, weight training is a good way to turn fat into muscle (don't worry women don't puff up like men) and you will look better without having to lose any weight. I weigh 30 pounds more than you and have a lower body fat % so you probably need to gain some muscle. And, of course, the hardest part, being patient and keeping your mood positive. I hope you are still monitoring your depression even though the meds are gone. Have you looked into meds without this side effect?

Again feel free to PM me or email (perfectparanoia@hotmail.com) to let me know how you are.

Thanks people for all your advices!!! i really appreciate that!

Went for my fav. spinning class today YIPEE!! and going sun-tanning tomorrow!!! YIPEE!!!!

It's really nice to be able to chat here with some many people from all over the world! Thanks people! i feel so blessed!

Hugs and kisses!
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I usually like to excerise on an empty stomach or maybe something really light, like 2 small pieces of wholemeal biscuits what do you guys think about that? cause usaully i'll do cardio and with food in my stomach, i usually end up getting pain at the side.

Plus if i don't put excerise first in my daily list, and when i have my first meal of the day, i'll feel that i'm 'bad' eating without exercising first. then it'll trigger me to a binge. I know this might sound silly but i've recognised this cycle that's why usually after i wake up, i'll tell myself not to open the fridge door and then head straight down to the gym then after that i will be able to 'reward' myself with my meal. I really dont know why i have such thinking.
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you should really try having something small and protein filled just before you exercise.

I totally know what you mean about the cardio pain though.

Try to reward yourself with something else like a nice hot shower or a cup of herbal tea. Rewarding ourselves with food is what got a lot of us here in the first place.

I've been so bad today!!!!! I was so hungry when i woke up this morning and before i know it i've started my bingeing again! I just hate myself.

dont hate yourself Lynn. start over right now..dont wait til tomorrow. every mouthful is the chance to start over.
i know you can do it.
hugs bell :)

Thanks bell. sometimes i just hate myself so much i want to hurt myself. I have such negative body imagine of myself that i don't have confident to do a lot of things. I don't even have the courage to meet some of my ex school mates these days because i'm so sick of comments like ' oh lynn! you've put on weight ya' or ' hey! you used to look so much smaller when we were schooling' I always have this 'bad' side of me that will say ' ya! just look at yourself! if your mates can still be so slim, why can't you? why are you so fat?' but the good side will tell me' hey lynn, you're doing great! you've been doing well in your gym routine etc'

I just hate being the biggest in the family. i feel disguised to be eating with my skinny sibling. when i'm having the same food as them, the 'bad' side of me will tell me that they look down on me because i'm the biggest and yet i still can't control my food portion. And if i'm just having soup and salad, the 'bad' side of me will tell me that they think that i'm pathetic! eating soup and salad for dinner!! haha that kinda stuff....

I really think i'll go crazy if i continue this way, but i can't seem control that side of me~

Wow! Never have I seen a comment that so reflects my feelings on the matter. I got so embarrassed by my weight once that I wouldn't even leave the house. And whenever I see someone form school the first thing I think about is my weight.

The only good news I have for you is that you can be happy with yourself anyway and if others don't like it, they'll just have to take a hike. Just remember that we are all beautiful and wonderful. You are strong enough to overcome this.

(BTW, I still tell myself this everyday and sometimes it still takes some convincing but it is getting easier every day)

Yeah perfect! many a times when i passes by people on the streets and they give a second look, compliments will never come to my mind... i'm so consious of how i look! i'll think, must be the pants that makes my thight at least 2 inches bigger today that's why he's looking at me. Must be this stupid sleeveless top that shows off my fat and flabby arms. i mean we just got to stop all these!

Seriously i think i'll go crazy one day if i continue! haha...so we got to stand hand in hand supporting one another through this.....

Yipee! i think i'm doing great today and i just wanna share this with you guys in there...

Went to the gym just now and i did 40 mins of body combat (cause i was late :tongue:) and 25 mins on the treadmill. and abs and backs!! Yipee! Had a bowl of cereals and a big piece of wholemeal walnut bread. The most important thing is I feel great! just so good and full of energy today!

I hope you guys are feeling the same way too! have fun over the weekends and be :) always!!!!


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