This really, really bothers :( me. The way people see me (and others) based on the way they dress. When I wear a hat and a dark-colored jacket I often get mistaken for a boy, being that I'm so tall and girls usually aren't that tall (I guess, I've been told by people I'm not related to that I'm <really> pretty). It's like people have these stereotypes aleady in there heads. Girls where this. Guys wear that. If I wear tight-revealing outfits, I'd never be "mistaken" for a guy. It's like I have to reveal myself to the world in order for people to recognize me, or just not wear certain clothes. I was picking up books for my row and I asked this girl if she wanted me to take her row's books(it was only 2 books from her row; 5 total). She said, "Sure, but are you sure you don't want me to take them, I mean I know you're strong and everything..." That upset me because, she doesn't know that I'm strong. She's just assuming because I'm not dainty :curtsey: , like everyone else. I don't wear dresses, skirts or tight clothes every day. It's so weird, that when I wear "pretty clothes" I get treated so differently. Does anyone else notice this or had experience with it?

Hello,

I do. I usually dress up in "pretty clothes" for work where I get compliments all day. I get a completely different reaction on the weekends when I run around in messy clothes. If I go to buy a beer on a week day (which is rare), I never get carded; however, I do on the weekend! I think it is normal to get more compliments when I am all dolled up. I do not expect to be treated the same way when I am not. I do not really mind at all. I know I am not as pretty or feminine in oversized jeans and a t shirt. That is just the way it is.

- Kimberly
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Oh yeah, and just be yourself :D I am sure you are a beautiful girl. Wear what you want to wear. Who cares what anyone thinks...

- Kimberly

Yeah kimberly! wear what you want, who cares what other thinks! :)

I used to dress up to please people, like my ex-boyfriend, my boss and even my friends! i mean i don dress casually to meet them, but maybe they just like me to doll up, put on make-up, wear nice sexy little dresses and stuff but i get sick of it!

Now, i only wear what i feel comfortable in, even if it makes me look 10 pounds heavier...who cares! why squeeze into that tiny skirt and suffer the whole day holding your breath so that your little tummy wouldn't show.

Life is too short to try to please everyone. Please yourself first cause in any case, you can't please all :)

Sweetie, don worry, i'm sure you look sporty in shorts with t-shirt and a cap..it just takes another person to appreciate your dressing :)

Have fun always!:D

They're right. If everybody else doesn't like it then they can shove it. Heck, part of the reason I took my job was because I can wear whatever I want (today is a pair of flare jeans, running shoes and a pretty sweater).

However, there is a compromise between comfort and looking good. I know that when I wear my 'grubbies' (that's what I call the old pair of track pants matched with one of my ex boyfriend's shirts), I may be comfortable but I don't feel very good about myself. So, I compromise (to an outfit like the one today), I wear something comfortable and flattering. If you want something to show off your curves, try stretch jeans. They can be skin tight but still have a lot of give (these are especially great while losing weight because you can buy them a little small while still being comfortable). And as far as tops go, a tight cotton tee can show off things while still being comfy.

It is totally not worth ever being uncomfortable as far as I am concerned. Especially not for other people.