First of all I should know better than to stay away from here! The longest and most sucessful diet I've ever had happened while I was regularly posting and reading DT. So what happened? I don't know honestly!! All I can say is that please someone kick my butt if I disappear again! :) Anyways it's good to be back.

I can't stick to a diet now. i don't know why this past month I've been totally binging. I feel bad about the way I look. I'm at186 lbs now. Not my all time high which was 193, but close. So why can't I stick with a diet?Part of it I'm really busy raising my 2 kids and going to nursing school. I'm starting my third quarter next week! :) But now I'm in a vicious cycle. I feel like I have no energy, all I want to do is eat or sleep pretty much. Even if I want to excercize I don't have the energy! I need to break this cycle.
Oh I have a boyfriend now (sort of, he has a committment phobia( and last week he told me, get this....that he promised he would marry me when I lose my weight. Not exactly the fariy tale proposal I've been waiting for all my life, eh? :)

Anyways I hope to talk with you all later, feel free to email me if anyone needs a dietting buddy or anything. melindajo2000@yahoo.com

Melinda

hey Milinda, I can think of way for you to loose wieght really fast...DUMP that boyfriend. If all he sees when he looks at you is the wieght, you'll never be what he's looking, and from the sounds of your busy life...why waist your time with him.
By the way your right about hanging out here...it seem to make it easier to hang on to that diet B-)
You just hang in there. Some how we'll all end up healther

Good for you for coming back. I hope you don't really love your boyfriend because I don't think you need a guy like that in your life. What if you lose weight and he marries you, and then you gain. I couldn't live like that. I'm so, so fortunate my husband loves me just the way I am, whether I'm a size 6 or 26 (the day we got married I weighed 120 and was a size 6, this past December I weighed 226 and was a size 26!) He tells me all the time he loves me no matter what I weigh, of course he is worried about my health with all this extra weight, but he's been with me through all the operations and hospitalizations and sees me live with incredible pain every day and every night. If I feel like I need to overeat to feel better, then he's right there with me. If I decide to overcome this weight problem, he's there to support me all the way. You deserve better than some guy who promises to marry you based on what you weigh! Keep coming back here and posting your feelings and how you are doing!

Thank you both for your replies already!It's really helped. Guess what, I did my hour on the excercize bike and also my aerobics tape! I feel pretty good right now. Anyways my boyfriend is out of town for another week and a half, and I'm seriously thinking about if I really want him or not. I know, the weight comments were like a big red flag for me, but still I ignored that feeling...we'll see how I feel next week. Thanks!

Melinda

Melinda, I don't want to slam your boyfriend, but (there's always a but!LOL) my best friend has been married to the same man for 20 years. When she married him, she was thin, now she's not and has not been for probably half of their marriage, anyway, her husband refuses to have sex with her because, and I quote "she disgusts him" and the thought of having sex with her "repulses him". Can you imagine??? Of course, I can't stand him and I don't know why she stays with him. I,like Terry, have a wonderful husband who loved me as a size 7 (when we met) and a size 22 (my heaviest). You deserve to be loved and wanted at ANY size, please don't settle. Good luck to you....Curly ;)

Melinda,

Relationships are hard enough without bringing your boyfriend's kind of low expectations and prejudices into it. And losing weight is hard enough without bringing your boyfriend's kind of cruddy attitude and pressure into it. Yeah, love is give and take....but you don't have to take what he's giving. That is absurd that his condition for marriage is the number on a scale. I hope you will find the strength to deal with him in the right way.

J.

hi melinda,
you are a special person and there is no need to settle for second best. this guy isnt right for you if he is so concerned about the number on the scale.
just look after you and think hard about if this person is worthy of your time.
hugs bell

Yep Melinda I have to agree.. The best way to get rid of the weight riding on your shoulder is to get rid of him.. Sure you will lose the weight but what happens if you do marry this man and then gain weight back while married to him??? Is he gonna divorce you???? Your children don't need that kind of man in their lives and neither do you.. Your heart is obviously bigger than his brains..Please Melinda think long and hard about this..Think of the kids if they become too attatched and things don't work out..HUGS to you.

Welcome back, Melinda - I've been wondering how you've been doing. I have to agree with everyone else, your boyfriend is not good enough for you! You deserve the best. Hope you keep coming back. I've missed your posts.

Welcome back. That is great incentive for people to hear that diettalk.com has helped you.

I'm not going to tell you what to do about your boyfriend but I do know that you need to figure out why you are binging? Any ideas?

welcome back to dt. i'm not gonna go off on how much of an A** this boyfriend of yours is. I think you know what you need to do. but i do want to say that you need to do this for yourself FIRST. you are your number one priority. ((HUGS))

YOu will loose it if you think about what was right about the last time you did loose and make a note of that and keep on with DT as it worked for you last time.

As for the boyfriend. you will work it out for yourself. Just remember can be very lonely in a room full of people. if you dont love yourself.

If I were you, I would give myself the opportunity to find someone else to be happy with, someone that is more accepting. Life is too short to be with someone that causes you nothing but pain and unhappiness. You'll never lose the weight with an unhealthy relationship hanging over your head, that would drive anyone to binge for comfort. He couldn't possibly meet your emotional needs. Maybe that is why you gained some of your weight back. If you love yourself for who you are as a person,you will know the right thing to do. If he can only love you at a certain weight, I'd lose him. Take care of yourself first and the right guy will come along. You can change you, but you will never be able to change him.