Hi everyone,
It's been a while since the las time i waas here really. Why then i am stoping by today, you can guess no?

well the same story, the same thing that happens to everyone. So why i am posting in here since everyone is basically tired of hearing the same complaints every day of their lives?

I was thinking last night about how all of us in our jobs, in our lives, with our bodies just hope that tomorrow is going to be better, we say:
Tomorrow is the day, i am starting in a new diet, this time is for good, this time is over. The same thing we say about our lives and job, just a little longer and all of our money problems will go away. We people always live in a hope,and then find out that when you get old you're still fighting against weightloss, against money problems, against everything, you just lived your live fighting over something that happens to 1 of 10 people.

I am sick and tired of being fat, of hidding behind my desk instead of facing reality, i am tired of waking up in the morning and get depressed when i don't know what to wear.

I had to go to a wedding, i never went, the clothes that fit me ok were to expensive, the las expensive are all for small woman. I don't go out never, i hide behind my desk with the excuse i have to work so i won't do anything and i don't have to battle against what to wear and how dam ugly i look with this double chin.

i am only 20 pounds overweight, but my feelings are no different than those that have 100 to lose, are exact the same.

I am tired of hearing everyone say, eat right, low fat, low thist, exercise, for man sake, i am a fitness and nutrition specialist, i went to colledge for that and i can't even lose this dam twenty pounds.

Where in the world is our courage people, where in the world is our strengh, is it left somewhere in our childhood and we can reach it? How far are we going to carry this pain, until we are dam old and can't do anything about it. What is the main point of posting in here everyday of our lives if at the end we end up eating at macdonalds.

You know what is the most disgusting thing i have ever put into my mouth? FOOD. it's disgusting, it's disgusting the way i put cheesecake into my mouth, i chew it, i taste it, than it goes throught my stomach, stays there for 8 ugly hours, my hall body absorbs all the fat, it stores behind my skin and in my blood, it makes my stomach big and horrible, it makes my head go nuts and to punish my self for being a bad girl i just put more into it. It's to disgusting the way we eat, we should feel shame for the way we treat our body, a beautiful body God gave us so we could take care of it with the best. If we treat our bodies so bad, than how can we have the courage to treat other people ok, what? are all those people that we treat good better than ourselves? I mean, lets give it a break, come on, we are complaining and complaining every day of our stinky lives, we are miserable people that don't have a l ife, we are people that don't know how to enjoy anything, that just live to live with only dreams and hopes but doing nothing.

I am sick and tired of wanting to go to exercise and saying o for what, this is not going to change anything. Yes is going to change, it can be change if we just stop being such irresponsible, complaining people. We have to go to work everyday, all of us have a responsability to do each day, than since going to work today is not going to bring more money for my home should i quit and stay home, so it ends worse? or should i do what responsability calls and go to work and try to do our best so our boss will promote us?

i really think if you have been in this forum for longer than two months and you haven't got a grip on yourself or quit dieting and eat all you want until you explode, someone takes you to the hopital or keep living this miserable life that you hate so much, or better get you bottom off that darn sofa or computer chair and go to do your responsability. ( this includes my self, because i am another stupid that goes around all day "oh i am fat, o i look like a pig, Oh i should lose, Oh there is no closes for mi size....)

STOP IT; STOP IT;

It's not easy, and who the hell said that living was easy, and who said that having a child and raising them is easy, and who said having a husband that makes you angry every five minutes is easy, and who said that having a father that is dying is easy, and who said that being away from the country you love, from the parents is easy, and who said that going to heaven is easy, but we just don't try to do our best when confrotned with this situations? Than what the heck is stpoing us right now? WHAT?????
Isa

Isaisa welcome to diettalk.. You sound like you have a lot of issues to deal with here...Yes we all go through the same thing otherwise we wouldn't be here now would we??? I mean your remark about anyone coming here for more than 2 1/2 months??? I'ld like you to know I've been coming here for 5 years now and only last year did I really do anything about my weight.. Losing 62 pounds.. Does that make me a failure for taking so long to do anything about it?? No...This place is my family, I've made many friends here and yes it did take me a while to decide to lose the weight but I've done it and have about 20 left tolose..and after I lose the rest of the weight I will continue to come here to help my buddies...Now that you've vented and you said you have 20 pounds left to lose are you planning on losing it??? We are here to help you.. and yes losing those 20 pounds is like someone having to lose 100 pounds...We have a few people here that have reached their goal and they continue to help others...Please let us help you get through this.....

hi isa,
that was one heck of a post. hope you feel better having gotten that all out of your system. frustration that comes from not doing something about losing weight can be so hard to deal with.
i think its a bit tough to tell people that they need to do something right now about their weight. i am a big believer in the click theory. sure people know that they need to lose weight but until they make it a priority i dont think they will succeed. people need to do things in their own time. its not up to me or you to tell them when they need to lose weight.
i have been coming here for almost 4 years and i am have lost 50 pounds and maintained that loss for over a year. i continue to come here to offer support and encouragement to my friends who are still trying to get to goal.
20 pounds is something that you can do something about especially when you are a nutritonal expert. eat less exercise more etc etc.
worry about what you can do for you and let others take care of their own journeys in their own time.
we are here to support you so let us know how we can do that.
hugs bell :)

Amen, and amen, bell. We all do the best we can with what we have and where we are AT THE MOMENT. Until the light goes on in our heads, we can spend a lot of time and effort making stabs at what we know is right, and then falling right back into old patterns. That's not a sign of weakness. It's a sign that we are human.

Very few of us have places where it's OK to complain about the frustration we experience in this journey outside of this forum. It's healthy to vent. It's healthy to share. And that's the glory of DT. Some days, we see success. Other days, not so much. But we all just do the best we can with what we have and where we are at the moment.

Come back and post with us, Isa. Everyone is welcome here.

ThinLynn

WOW! Maybe the scales didn't change, but I bet your heart feels a lot lighter after getting all of that off your chest. It is so maddening to know just what we should do and still not be able to do it.

I haven't been here very long, but so far I've done really well on my plan. When I mess up tomorrow or next week or in 6 months, will I quit? NO I WILL NOT! I will run straight here for comfort & support to the people who understand exactly what I am going through.

I know I will be welcomed and I know you will be too. That is what this place is all about.

Karolyn

Isa,
You had alot on your mind, I had to read that 3 times. It does take some longer to reach their goals than others. Doesn't come easy or we all would be thin. You mentioned you already know how to lose, nutrition ect... We easily get frustrated when we get stuck on a #. True there are many factors in our lives that can add to why we eat. Getting a chance to unload helps people see, they are not alone. How you handle your day to day struggles can keep you positive or down in the dumps. Some people get a flat for example and it will ruin their whole day. Others fix it and don't look back. When things are bad, I am still grateful. It could always be worse. Obviously there are some days we will be depressed, life situations ect... But you sound like you could use a friend, support, an ear, we are here, vent away.

If you are still wanting to lose those last 20 pounds. Don't give up. I hope you see we understand. :o

I'm sorry but I guess I just don't understand why you're angry with us? We're here to help & support & you're telling us off?

I don't think isaisa is angry at us...

Originally posted by dolcimia:
<STRONG>I'm sorry but I guess I just don't understand why you're angry with us? We're here to help & support & you're telling us off?</STRONG>

WOW!!!!

You sound like me when I am just getting ready to make a change!!! We all have issues that frustrate/anger/sadden/hurt us and sometimes they come crashing down on us like we just can't face another day. Funny thing though, we always beat ourselves up over it. I have had to look at life differently the past 7 years or go insane. I take a look around and if I walk around bitter, angry, envious, jealous, and hurt, I hate life. And where does that exactly get me? Well...I feel resentful and hateful and spiteful which then makes me angry because I feel like that, I hurt others around me who are not deserving of that kind of treatment. Sometimes the tears are at the surface, we all have times like that. But just like a child who falls down and hurts himself, we pick him up and brush him off and away he goes to play again!!
We only have one life to live! Its ours to live. So if we have disappointments and downfalls, make the best of them!! We can't go around changing the past. We CAN change the future!
Talking is one way that makes us see and understand where we are going wrong. It is the best cure for all!!!
Thats why we have phychiatrists! They make thousands of dollars a year from people like us...and they have a 6 month waiting list AND you have to wait for your appointment to be able to vent.
I do believe we have found a perfect solution here. We can post on a board, vent and feel better, hope that someone will reply and offer us solutions or if that is not possible at least support and encourage us, knowing you are not alone and being able to talk to people about issues that would embarrass you to talk about to your loved one or would hurt that love one seems like a perfect solution to me!
I really hope you do continue to post. Helping others as well as yourself is the best way to feel better about yourself!!!

I wasn't actually angry with anyone, i was angry with my self for not doing what i want to do, for having the strengh tow ork until five in the morning, for being a weight and fitness specialist and not being able to do my profession because i myself can't loss weight. Talking in general makes it easy when you are writing, and that is what i did. I know that coming to this forum is not only to loss weight but to feel the love and to encourage all those that are struggling like us.

what makes me mad in general is the strengh that we have to do certain things in live that are worse and the little that we have to treat our body the way it deserves.

I mean if we just take a look at all the things our body do for us, it makes us walk, it makes us smile, it makes us live, think, run, it does everything for us, and not taking care of it like it should be, not giving it the love that it deserves is what drives me crazy.

I am scared, ia m only 23 years old, but i fear that the time pass by and i will find my self a old lady with the same problems, i want to be able to live life the best i can, and i know i have all the resources to do it and to do it right, but is the strengh that is not there, the courage, and the responsability.

My body is my responsability, God gave it to me to take care of it, to treat it right and than i just treat it like a piece of garbage, i do things to it that are inhuman, and it's my own piece of skin.

I want to change, not for being more beautiful only, but because i deserve it. I was depressed yesterday and that is why i wrote all those things that i think are very much truth, just putted in a dramatic ugly way. I manage to get all the things that were bodering me from inside my heart and that made me feel better.

So this is about it, it's all a problem of mine but in some one a problem in everyone's lives. and all i desire is the we people struggling with this ugly thing to stop it. I want to stop complaining every single day and do something about it. Get it over now that i am young, because when i get old i won't have the same energy.

Unfortunatelly it's easy to say it, but when one has to do it than the hard come in, is when we get all bent out of shape and say " what the heck, i am going to eat what i want and exercise when i want"

I was thing once, i had energy, i exercised like crazy, i could wear a bikini and gosh did that felt good, it felt so nice goign shoping and buying for little money so many nice things, is was so nice to go to a party and see how people looked at me because i was so cute.

When one is ft, people treat us differently, they don't treat one with the respect that one deserves. I know it, i feel it.

Thank you all for your replies and please don't take it hard, i never meant to ofend anyone, you all have passed trought this so no one better can understand me.

I find that people in communities love eachother more than in normal life, good thing. Maybe coming in here will make it easier for me, maybe i will feel better when i just empty my sistem.

Thanx :)

Hi Isa,
Welcome back :) I understand what you are trying to say. The typed word is not the same as talking. But in general, it sounds like you are worried about maintaining weight for years. I would try and not look too far ahead. Concentrate on now. As for how others treat people by their looks. You could be thin and still not be with the in crowd, so to speak. It's not your appearance that determines your self worth. Sure it's nice to be able to wear a bikini. But self esteem comes from within. Daily frustrations can send us running to the fridge. Yup, we are saying don't care, going to eat and then feel bad after. Food is not the enemy.

I think with all the influences we have to face each day. Knowing how to take the weight off and doing it are two different things. Take it day by day.

Yes, we CAN do better. Hang in there. :x

Isa I do know where you are coming from... Believe me.. I don't know if I ever told anyone this before but I to have a background in fitness/nutrition..passing the course.. But I never did persue it.. I wanted to teach the handy cap.. To start a fitness group for them but never did do it.. Due to the fact that a back defect prevented it.. Sometimes it's things like that, that prevent us from doing the things we dreamed of doing..But as for the weight thing??? I did finally do something about it and all with a little help from my friends and their love and support...

Welcome to dt. I hope yu find someone here that can help you out. Infact I'm sure you will. I did. EVERYONE here will help you out. Even if its just tell you a story or letting you know that the same thing happened to them. You are not alone here. We are and were in the same boat as you and we as well are trying to stay afloat. I wish you luck and I will watch for more of your posts.
One thing that I would suggest that you might do for yourself is just make one small change a day. I use to find that if I made to many changes all at once that it was to much for me to give up.
I make myself go for a 1/2 hour walk every day. Or on a rainy day I clean out a closet.
Start drinking 4 to 8 glasses of water a day. If you don't think you have time to do that, every time you go to the fridge to get a drink have water instead.