hi all, i have been on and off every program possible, including the no diet approach. right now i love the richard simmons program but cant seem to stick to it 100%. i know i have to be patient with myself and i have to realize i am not perfect, but one or two days on the program, i do great and i love the program, and then situations come up, stressful ones like a fight with hubby, or going out to eat with friends , then i just throw my whole plans out the window. when i am with my mom in law, she pays and we go out for drinks. i just dont know how to say no to these situations. these are some of the things that are keeping me from losing this weight. i think i belong here. i get so tired of it all sometimes, but i dont want to quit trying to get to goal. just felt like venting thanks. i just dont know where to post sometimes.

debi I know what you mean - it is a tough road to travel at times.

Maybe ask your mother in law and others for help/support and ask them to not ask you out as often.

Fights with hubby can bring on a eating binge like nothing else for me........sigh

Now i just go and walk off my anger instead of eat.

We are here for you - vent away :)

Just so you know if you post in the SOS area you may get more/quicker responses when you need some support fast :)

Jade

thanks so much jade, the walking is a great idea. if only i could get away without my 7 yr old. we are very close, and she always wants to go with me, maybe i should take her with me, i am already trying to get her on the road to a healthier child hood than i had.

well, today is my weigh in day. i am exactly the same 189. no loss or gain this week. that just means i have got to try harder. i excercised 5 days last week, drank my water, had some good days and some bad days, and all it got me was staying the same weight. i have got to be more committed!!!!!!!

I take my kids with me when I walk..i let them run along side or let them be on their little scooters or their bikes. If they do that then im forced to walk a bit quicker.

You can do it Debi. Keep on adding healthy choices in. In time they will add up to great things. I believe in you and know you can make it happen. :x

thank you, linda for the encouarging words and support. you are right, i should be excercising with my daughter. she is 7 and i would probably have to run to keep up with her. if my chest wasnt so big i would think about a slow jog sometimes. thanks again. i will hang in there and just try to choose healthier foods and stop eating when i am not hungry.

i binged today, i know i want to stick with rs and learn how to eat healthy in the right portions.

re. the boobs--I was having serious "floppin' in the breeze" issues til I found a couple of good sportsbras--we're talking, tie them down, strap 'em and flatten 'em things. I used to ride my nephew's scooter alongside of him biking--great butt workout.

re. ....I dunno. it seems like a cry for help. So here's my (dreaded) $.02...I haven't lost a pound in two weeks. AND I've been working out 7 times a week, and I've been moderate in my diet, small portions, cutting out most alcohol, not eating past 7...basically busting my ass. And I'm down about it, depressed, pissed. But I refuse to let my bad feelings get the better of me. Eventually, if I persevere, the scale will show what my efforts were. I know that last week, when I had a beer almost every day...that didn't help. AND this weekend, at the baby shower when I sampled the lovely cakes on the table...that didn't help. I'm actually grateful I didn't gain!! I had to excuse myself early from the party, strap Abby to my back, and walk an hour, cuz I wanted food and booze. I'm not trying to be Little Miss Perfect Prissy Pants here. I know it's rough--I'm living it!!

All I can say is keep on. Every week you don't gain is progress--you didn't gain!! And if you lose--that's the big bonus!!

Keep plugging away, Debi--it's never fun, but it'll be worth it!!!!!!!

thanks for sharing jess, i will take your advice. you hang in there too. you sound like you are really making lots of changes. you are right, when we dont gain, i know we are making some positive changes.

baby steps, debi.:) hang in there.

i blew it again today, i woke up feeling great, excercised, ate a healthy breakfast, then around 1:00 at work it got really slow and i ate half sandwhich, the at 2:00 the other lady left. i was alone for about an hr, with nothing to do. i just blew it , i pigged out. at the deli there is just food all over the place and i can eat what i want for free. i got bored and lost control, i wasnt even hungry. i just dont know what to do anymore, i know i dont want to stay this weight, and i really need to change the situations that cause me to overeat. i just dont know what to do anymore.

i will try to hang in there and keep trying to change. oh, the boob thing was funny, thanks for sharing that with me. guess it is time to go shopping for a new sports bra and maybe one of the books that people mentioned when i first went on the no diet approach.

....nobody said it would be easy. I had my body fat tested today, bear in mind all the stuff I was saying up there about how I was buting my butt...9 weeks later, 10 lbs lost (per their scale and their "start" weight) and 1 lousy body fat % lost... Talk about discouraged?!?!??!! SO I went t o Dairy Queen and got a small cone (better than the large I wanted, but I was short cash)--and Abby decided she wanted to commandeer the cone and ate half of it (like mother, like daughter, I guess...though she can't seem to gain weight...)...now I'm settling in to a nice glass of merlot, and I decided I need a rest day today. in short, I'm feeling lazy and discouraged, like I'm on a 1 speed bike trying to pedal from mid Mexico into the wilds of Cananda--it's gonna be a looooong trip. But what happens if I get off my bike and park it? where will I be? further ahead? no. I won't lose any miles, though... So I'll have a nice little rest. then I'll plug away.

So next time you're there, bored spitless, think about it. Where am I now? Where do I want to be? How do I get there? and maybe have a bite of all the lovely things you want to eat, but in-between bites do squats, then lunges, then butt-tightening leg lifts. Then take a deep breath and say, dammit, I'm worth this.


and I'll do the same!!


again--hang in htere!

jess

thanks jess, that can be discouraging, but you are right, we have to keep at it. nobody was around at the shop,i could have be doing those kind of excercises there. i will think of you and do something else. good going with the small cone and you got to share it, how cute. oh and 1% bodyfat gone shows that you are progressing and making changes, good for you. thanks for sharing.

Deb...

I was just browsing through the posts and ran into yours. I know exactly how you feel. I have been very over weight for over 20 years. At one point and time I just decided to chalk my fat up to living with it forever because nothing and I mean nothing would work. I don't want to come on here and be a sales person or anything. But last April I finally found something that works. I have now lost 50 pounds and I feel so great. I actually went swimming last summer and I plan on spending some more time this year too. If you would like to know more I will give you my email address and we can talk about it. Good luck with what ever you decided to do.

Starsmom