For a while I was visiting this site multiple times daily, and everything was great. I was loosing weight and all was going well. I felt I had mad buddies with some of the others on this site trying to loose weight. Then Suddenly I could not use the internet as much and stopped coming by here. Then when I tried to start coming back regularly either the people who I had been talking with before had also left or something else, I don't know. All in all the support from when I first visited this site and when I attempted to come back had vanished. So I stopped coming around again, then I tried a few more times, but it has not worked. I really miss the support I felt I had when I was coming around here about a year ago. What has happened to all the people that I talked to on a regular basis.

Dear Smorris:

I am sorry you are feeling frustrated, and I can understand how you miss the friends you made here on Diettalk in the past. No, I don't know what happened to them - maybe they had problems with their computers, maybe they just drifted along to other things, etc.

But what I suggest you do is just to keep posting here and there. Maybe you could start a journal in the journal forum. A journal almost always draws responses.

There are lots of friendly people here on Diettalk willing to offer encouragement and advice regarding losing weight. And maybe some of the friends you made earlier will drift back and start posting again.

But don't become discouraged. This losing weight is a difficult thing to do, we who post on Diettalk all have experienced that. But it is very important that we each get ourselves into a healthy condition as quickly as we can.

Nice to meet you, and I hope to see you around here and there.

Keep smiling -

Smorris - I'm sorry to hear that the buddies you made are not posting anymore. Why don't you join some of the challenges under the challenge or Exercise forums. You will find plenty of motivation in there and you will find many people that have been here for a long time. Check them out and just look at the support there is. I know there is lots of support and friendship in the "40 pounds by July" and in the "Scare off the Pounds" one and I'm sure if you read some of the other Challenges there is lots there too. We would love to have you come and join us. All you have to do is join in and you will have all the buddies and support you need. :) And don't worry - everyone here understands as we have all been there.

It's good that you came back as well as voiced your concerns. It's much better to tell us that you have needs (to be heard and understood, given encouragement, etc.) too. All of us are (or have been) in the same boat at one time or another. Coming to the site to learn from each other and to give and get encouragement along the way.
We are here for you!
Also, I like your saying about the fat suit. My long time fantasy has always been that I am wearing a fat suit to do a study on how overweight people are treated, etc. and all of the sudden I take it off and get a million dollars for my contribution to the study. LoL!
Michelle

JoThrive...I agree with the journal idea, I used to use it to keep up with my food and exercise, but noone ever said anything to me on them (or at least not to much), but now I am going to use the journals for that and for putting up my thoughts and feeling o looseing weight.

LadyWendy...I am going to look into some of the challenges, but if I remember correctly before when I was on here they were very strick with everything and at the time none of them seemed to cater to what I wanted to do. However, I will look into them and see what the new ones are all about.

danze68...That is an interesting spin on my fat suit thing, one that I have not actually thought of. I fingure that its true in a way, but you just can't take this fat suit off as quickly, and its like one of those dresses you have to have someone to help you get off because its really hard to do it by yourself.

That's true, it is hard to lose the suit.
It really does help to be able to come to the site for learning and encouragment. For me, I am so encouraged when people are able to lose weight and keep it off. It gives me the extra strength that I need to be able to continue denying myself the things that I want on a daily basis. A capuccino!! Because I can see that it is not hopeless people can actually lose weight and keep it off! It sure encourages me. Keeps me going!
Have a good day and keep pressing on towards your goal. You will make it.
Michelle

Smorris, glad you are going to look into some of the challenges. None of them were strick. The 40 pound till July one was to lose 40 pounds from Jan 1 to July 1, however you could pledge any amount you wanted. Some pledged more and some pledged less. Some are still joining and pledgeing what ever amount they want. Same as the Scare off the Pounds, you can pledge any amount you want. Hope to see you there.

Hi there Smorris!!

Remember me? We used to support one day thread, chosing one goal for the day. First off here is a great big hug:hug: sorry you feel abandoned. I relate to feeling that way myself. The group that I frequented went their own way with lots of new faces and a much younger crowd which left me kind of hanging out in the cold. I post in my journal and even in several other threads without any real support so I can truly relate there. However, keep posting/journaling and hopefully you will get the support you are desperately seeking. Just know you were not forgotten! Are you and your bf married yet?

Sandi

HEY BLUE!!! you are one of the ones that I missed the most and you are still here, so that makes me really really happy. I have noticed that there is a much younger crowd here lately. No we are not married yet, but we have purchased a house together, so I guess for now that is more important than a ring. We are coming up on our third year together, and I am starting to think that it may be yet another year until I even get an engagement ring. I don't know, all my friends are either married or about to get married, and they all say, "You got a house" at which time I reply with "I want a ring though", but most of them dated four or five years before getting married, so I can not really complain. I think we should do the goal a day thing again, that was fun and really kept me in line, even if it is just the two of us. So enough about me how are you?

LadyWendy....I have not had a chance to look into the challenges yet but I will. This weekend I was so sick and I had all these plan, a few plans had to be canceled so I could take care of my sick sell. I am not fully better yet but I still have to earn money so I am at work trying to subdue the runny nose and coughing as best I can, but I am going to try and look into those today.

danze68...I am totally with you on the finding strength from those who are able to keep the weight off because it is so easy to loose the weight and get complacent and gain it all back. It also amazes me when people loose more than 75lbs, that is at least what I have to do and I want to be like some of them. So I find the most strength from those who have done what I need to do.

Hi, fancy seeing you here! I have been a member here for a good while and I remember you from past attempts. In the past I've had the same frustrations you are talking about too. I don't think we can take it personally. I just think the crowd changes and gets to know each other and bond as they come and go, and our old crowd has gone on to other things.

I'm glad you posted this thread. It tells me I am not the only one who thought those thoughts. I'm going to hijack some of the advice you are getting. :D

Cheers!

Linda

HI SM!

Sorry to hear you under the weather, hope you get better ASAP!
Congrats on the house that is fabulous. I am sure you will get a ring before you know it. Hope you find all the support you need hun! I will do my best to be here for you. Sure we could do "just for a day resolutions again!" I am doing well, ty for asking. Getting back into a routine again. I started a new job last summer which really took a toll on me. Happy to say things are getting better. For tommorow my resolution will be to go to bed at a reasonable hour. I have been staying up far to late and it really takes alot out of me. I get cravings and start making excuses. Hope you had a great day! Hugzzzzz. Sandi

Sandi....As I already said I am so glad that you are here, and it is good to hear that you are doing well. I hope you can get those zzzzz...'s I know I need mine. I think personally my goal should be that I try to actually take care of myself right now, while I am sick. I have been trying to eat healthier so maybe I will get better sooner. I am trying really hard to just let my body fight this one off instead of rushing to the doctor to get medicine I am not really sure that I need. I have found this really great stuff that is an immune booster rather than an antibiotic or something that runs the risk of killing good germs too. It is call Air Borne, and I love it. Usually now when I get sick I take that and I am better within days, but this time I think I waited to late to take it because I thought it was just allergies and I was takeing allergy meds instead, so now it will take me longer to get better than if I had started just taking this in the beginning.

I am still in school and working full time so taking care of myself tonight might be a bit difficult, but other than class I am going to try to rest and get back on my feet.

To everyone else....I was worried that when I put up this thread that it might upset everyone, but I decided that I needed support and I couldn't think of a better way to get it at the time. However, I learned that apparently I am not the only one that has or does feel this way. I thank all of you for dropping by and helping me out with this issue. This just reminds me why I came to this site in the first place.

WEll I did get to bed around 9;30 however hubby not so politely woke me around 11 and u guessed it I couldn't get back to sleep!! I am really beat. So I am off to bed early tonite, hopefully with much success. Still managed to drag my butt out of bed for morning work out so this is good.

SM_Hope you are feeling better. Taking care of YOU should always be your top priority! How's school. Almost summer vacation isn't it. I forget what year are you now, junior?

Off for a quick shower and off to bed so ..........TTYL! Sandi

Still sick, still trying to rest and not go to the doctor. Tonight I have the 4th test in my Chemestry Class (that I really really hate) then we have a lab final Tuesday and the next Tuesday, we have the lecture final. I am also in a general conditioning class at school and the final in there is Wednesday of next week. So summer is almost here and I am actually taking a break from school before I transfer to the university. Currently I am a Sophmore, but when I transfer I will be a Jounior. Its taking me a while because I work full time and go to school, so I will probably be in school about another 3 or 4 years.

Sorry about the sleep thing, tell your husband to be quiter when he gets in bed, so you can get your sleep. My boyfriends stays up way later than me and when he comes to bed I have trained him to be quiet for me. Good luck on this, let me know how it goes.

Just wanted to quickly pop in for a post before getting ready for work. This week has been just so chaotic, so glad today is FRIDAY!! Only 4 days next week then I will be off for a glorious 10 days, spring cleaning is the plan, but not having to go to work sounds heavenly!! SM_ you take care of yourself and get better soon. I will do best to drop by at least daily to see how you are doing. Time to get ready, just wanted to drop by.......GOOD LUCK WITH THE TEST!! I am sure you will do marvelous. Huggggzzzzz. Sandi

Wow I wish I could be off for 10 Days, that just sounds nice. I hope you enjoy your time off.

Well, I am still not feeling well, although I am feeling a little better. Tonight we are going to wash everything, he is going to clean the house from top to bottom, and we are going to go buy new pillows. We are thinking that if we sanitize the whole place that maybe I will get better.

As for the test, I was 10 minutes late and he would not let me take it because some student had already finished the test. Which if you finish the test in 10 minutes do you really know whats is going on in the class. I am so upset, because I studied for that test, now I am not sure I can even pass the class. It's not like I have missed every class leading up to the test, in the entire semester I have missed one class and am very rarely late to class at all. I call the department chair and they are going to talk to him about this and hopefully we can work something out, but with the way that this school works I will be suprised if I get anywhere. I hate this science teacher, not only he can't teach but he is a real jerk. I am honestly trying, I work full time, and go to class every night of the week, but Friday. Either way, I'll let you know what happens.