Heylo everyone.
I'm new to diettalk. I'm trying to lose weight, but I don't seem to be very good at it by myself. I feel so unmotivated, but my mind is telling me to do things, but for some reason, I just don't. UGH!!! I hope to make friends here and maybe even a diet/exercise buddy. Hope to talk to everyone soon!!!
~*~michelle~*~
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Welcome Panda -- glad you could join us!!

I know that feeling! Every time I resist the urge to not exercise though I haven't that day or resist the urge to have more food than I should, I celebrate a little inside (I'm tempted to keep a journal here not so much of food an exercise but of my little wins and my little guilts... maybe it would work for you too?)

Welcome! I had similar problems before coming here. Though I should say that becoming a member here, jumping right into the conversations, and also jumping right in on any of the challenges have helped me keep more on track than I have ever been. This place has really helped to keep me motivated. Another thing to keep in mind is that in order to be truly successful, it must be a lifetime change. Though I'm very slow with losing some weight and not always keeping on track, I keep reminding myself that I'm doing this for the good of me and my future, whatever it may hold for me. This is not just a temp "quick fix", but a lifestyle change that will not only help me lose the weight, but also help me keep it off. :)

I'm reading this book: The Feeling Good Handbook by Dr. David Burns. It's helping me a lot with my depression issues, but I feel like it helps with my dieting too. The reason I mention it is that he talks about patterns of distorted thinking, which he defines as thoughts that are irrational. One of the patterns is "should" thinking. (I shouldn't eat that, I should be exercising, I should lose more weight) This kind of thinking only makes you feel worse, which makes you less likely to actually do the more desirable option, or even outright rebel against it.

The day that I started the diet that finally worked (I had been a chronic yo-yo dieter) was the day that I allowed myself to stop "should" thinking. Of course, I didn't know the term at the time. I told myself, "It would be nice to lose some weight. That doesn't mean that I have to, or that I have to do it quickly. It would just have a lot of benefits." Something clicked for me. That was the piece I was missing, and now I diet without guilt over anything I do. If I screw up, I try to tell myself that it probably would have been better if I hadn't done that, but I can do better later.

Ok now that I'm rambling and preaching and stuff and prbably sounding like a know-it-all: I just thought I'd share the one thing I needed to be successful. Maybe it will help you too.

I would suggest that you start a journal here at diettalk. That will give you a place to vent your diet concerns and get some input.

welcome!

Welcome...I know exactly how you are feeling. I know what I need to do, but I find every excuse in the book not to do it. "I've had a long Day" , "I'll do it tomorrow" (and don't) "I'm tired", "I really just want to relax", and so on. I think as far as dieting goes this is my biggest problem, and the saddest thing is I know how to fix it, but I don't for some reason. Coming here has helped me in the past and I am just returning again because I got off track. So good luck with your diet plan, and this place will help you out a lot, if you let it and put your mind to dieting.

Good Luck, we are all here for you!!!