This has been a good week and a milestone for me, on Tuesday my lifestyle change and journey to normality reached the 6 month mark, and today(Friday) I saw my weight go down by 100 lbs and what a great feeling it was to change my stats, actually I am down 106 lbs since February, but when i bottomed out and started my journey early June I was 413 and this is the marker I choose to use. you may wonder what is my meaning of normality, there was Many Many good reason's to tackle my weight /shape and all the burdens that 400 plus bring.s, many of us accept it because it creeps up with the passage of time, BUT there was an issue that really bothered me in the last couple of years or so that I never suffered from in the past, I have alway's considered myself a normal masculine male or one of the Guys, and although i have been heavy since my mid twenty's it never bothered me and indeed I have always worked at physical jobs and always for myself, and having old fashion values of life and family, But in the last couple of years my weight may not have altered much but something as i got older sure did, i found that more and more Iwas standing out and young kiddies were looking and commenting in a hurtful and embarrassing way, more to there parent than directly " THEY DO SPEAK THERE THOUGHTS" this was a new blow to my masculinity for never in my life would comments have been accepted by adults, and when I estimated for metalwork at a kiddies day center and found myself cringing at the thought of walking through those room's with many kids about and with similar comments i thought a serious look at myself was in order, its tragic and sad when an individual has some infliction or deformity and through no fault of there own life can be cruel, and i may have tasted only a mild sample in comparison but i had a choice and coupled with many other incentives had to make a change, today I am heading in the right direction, lots still to lose,i am slowly realizing where i have went wrong, working at those issue,s and feeling great benefits already and i look forward to blending in with the crowd in the future.
Many of the lady's at DT have been great and although there's not a lot of us guys around i have enjoyed our dude's forum and the support of you guy's, THANK you all .and good luck and success on your own journey's." If we find the trigger then perhap's the starting and finishing line will be reachable"

Bigacey
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You are beyond words Acey. You seem to have it all together, and are certainly doing such an incredible job loosing weight. I believe that attitude is everything, and yours is amazing. We are all here to support each other, and I find that you are quite an inspiration :bow:

Bigacey... as someone who was never in the "in" crowd, I know that it isn't only kids who can be cruel.

I would also like to see my guys here.. I hope that we can get more by having a great "Dude(s)" forum.

I hope the quote below from you doesn't mean your leaving us. Your where you should be.. getting support.. to help you reach your goal... only together can we all succeed.


Many of the lady's at DT have been great and although there's not a lot of us guys around i have enjoyed our dude's forum and the support of you guy's, THANK you all .and good luck and success on your own journey's." If we find the trigger then perhap's the starting and finishing line will be reachable"

Thank you vTmom13 for your kind word.s and I like your site on your family History ? must be a fascinating interest.

John although I am delighted with my weight loss and how I feel and look compared to 6 month's ago, I realize that I have >>>
Lot.s to lose.
Lot's to Learn.
Lot's to change.

AND through lot's of good support including DT will be hanging around thank you.

Bigacey

It's funny how many memories your post brought back to me Bigacey. I use to work for a youth placement (juvenile detention) and every time we'd get in a new kid, especially a female, there was always the rude remarks initially until they got to know me. Funny how when size is the first thing a youth or even some ignorant adults notices, they don't think twice about calling out an insensitive remark, or commenting like it's actually appropriate.

I also remember just wanting to be more "normal" and just not wanting to be the biggest one in the room! People can be so ugly sometimes!

Your success is just wonderful, and I am so tickled for you and Mrs. Bigacey, and you know, even when you do reach goal, you still won't blend in with the crowd because you're one of those people with that "quality" that stands out. So you'll still stand out, but then it will be because "they" actually notice what an exceptional person you are!

I hope you will be around here for a long time, you are one of the people I feel a "connection with" and your posts are always so personal and thought provoking, and I'd miss you terribly if you weren't around to "chat" with! :)

Donna

Hey Bigacey.
i love reading your posts there is always so much thought put into them and i know that they really "speak" to people.
Congratulations on your awesome weight loss so far, you should be extremely proud of yourself as we are of you.
hugs bell :)

Hi Bigacey
congratulations on the loss its brilliant, I bet you could have taught Rik Waller a thing or two. Unfortunately we live in a world where manners are slowly going out of the window for some families. And children now say what they see aloud. If there is someone big or disabled my daughter has an awful habit of staring, but then she does have to put up with stares from other people if I have an epileptic fit in the street. Luckily she has her mouth under control. You are an inspiration to many people.
good luck with the rest of the journey.
Ellie

Hi again
I was thinking about what you wrote and If You didn't cringe at the thought of walking throught those rooms with kids staring and making comments would you have just carried on accepting yourself as you were? Hurtful comments are never acceptable. But for myself I remember how quicklyI went up a dress size, and thought"1 size bigger nothing to worry about,soon lose it", then went up another size. Never had any energy to do anything about it then. Until it was time to choose clothes for a family wedding and my sister pulled me to one side and told me how I really looked (ridiculous in a size 12) .It would be brilliant if we could take control of our eating patterns before they took control of us, the diet industry wouldn't do so well. But at least we'd all be alot healthier.
Ellie

Thank you Donna, Bell and Ellie for your lavish praise and continuing support.

Donna our connection is mutual and you certainly have reached normality and could never no longer be considered the biggest in the room, you and me both know that life at our heaviest brought its fair share of problem's, you have already conquered a major one,, and lately life does not seem easy for you, but if you slip up bad and backtrack up those scale's," Life as before" will rear its ugly head , I don't want to see that, hopefully these rough water,s will calm down soon for you, But hey you are still doing great.

Bell Been reading some of your post's, you seem to be really on top of your weight management, your total loss coupled with maintaining is also some feat, Must be the hot weather down under LOL, for many of us the miserable night's are hard, you mention you like in the pool with your kid.s, over here in Scotland its puddle's we get.

Ellie your so right about clothe's, My eldest son was married in October ? don't Know if you seen the photo of my son's and wife, called it" Not just for myself " in the picture forum. Anyway I found it depressing trying on and wearing a kilt, felt like a walking awning and that was me down over 5 stone, but the youngest is getting married in 18 month's and I will be joining them in the photo LOL, You ask whether I may have carried on accepting living at my past weight if Kids remark,s were not becoming a problem, AND I can say that I had been bottoming out for a couple of years and the feeling of standing out as the big fat man had a serious demoralizing effect, but I was worried that life would be shortened or spoiled through health if i did not tackle it, coupled with many drawbacks a lifestyle change was adopted and without doubt is a do or die change, but health wise things are really good but would they have done for much longer at over 400lbs and at 50 years old, Hopefully you to will be lucky and is managing your epilepsy OK and good luck on your own journey.

Bigacey

Hi Bigacey
I did see the picture, I'm not surprised you posted it, it is a lovely one.
Ellie

Hi Ellie with those stat,s you "are" there, but how sensible you are to be keeping on top of your eating etc, and hey you would not have been welcome at Celebrity fit club LOL, Wish I had done a lifestyle change 25 years ago, But as you know its hard to make a living while rearing kids and keeping house, I was married at 18, dad of three by 23 and still had the 2 boys or men till they were 25 and 27, all flew the nest now and settled with great partner,s , and for the first time in all these years me and Mrs bigacey, stock the cupboard with our choice, and eat when it suits us, No regrets about family and doing it young, and I am longing for grand kids " but they are on a go slow, any hint's to speed them up LOL, Sometime's I feel terrible going on about my reason's for change when you consider how cruel life can be for other's,IE medical and health problem's, relationships and all that that life puts there way, life today may have many comforts but can be hard for most of us, ? Don't you find it strange talking lbs, working out the month on the calender etc, but i find it great getting to talk openly, keep posting Its good to read your view.s.

Bigacey

Life is a jouney.. and what we learn on that journey. We all have our bumps and how we deal with them will help or hinder us in our journey. Weight is just another "bump" in our road and how we deal with it adds or subtracts from our journey.

Originally posted by bigacey
Sometime's I feel terrible going on about my reason's for change when you consider how cruel life can be for other's,IE medical and health problem's, relationships and all that that life puts there way, life today may have many comforts but can be hard for most of us, ? Don't you find it strange talking lbs, working out the month on the calender etc, but i find it great getting to talk openly, keep posting Its good to read your view.s.

Bigacey

Hi Bigacey
Thanks for the support, Although now according to the charts I am no longer overweight the feeling inside of always being the "bigger one" hasn't escaped me.
Only this time, probably like you,I have found an eating plan that suits me and everything has made sense as to why the faddy diets I have tried in the past have never worked.
I have made my healthier eating a way of life, so hopefully my daughter will grow up properly nourished, and with a good attitude towards eating.
You was saying about the raw sugar cane (hope I got that right) you had has a kid, we had bread and dripping.
Health is something we all take for granted don't you think?
There are things that we just cannot change about the life we are given so I am trying to concentrate on the things I can change.
Suggestion for speeding up the grandchildren,Tell them YOU are getting broody, If that doesn' t work I've run out of suggestions,lol.
Working out weight in lbs, does our european commissioners know we are doing that, we're supposed to be using kilo's now aren't we, I won't tell if you don't ha ha.
I am getting more used to it .
A question off topic
When the rugby was on recently we had to pay to see England was it the same for you watching Scotland ?
Look forward to reading your post
Ellie

MUST be getting there, been dragged to more shopping trips than I care to count, and I feel with my total loss that I am not way out of the ordinary, plenty of others equal to me, took Mrs Acey for her Christmas to a specialist leather shop and ? guess what I was asked did I care to try on the gent's jacket's, now considering that I have only 2 shops in our biggest city that cater for my former size that was a good feeling, so good that MRS acey took advantage and roped me into a coat and jacket, and hey new parts of my anatomy are appearing pretty quickly , yep those bony thing's called ribs, ribs and more ribs, long time no feel these, but I would rather feel them than eat them LOL.

Merry Christmas to you all and thanks for all your support and encouragement.

BIGACEY
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