So tonight my neighbor gave me a bunch of free stuff from Torrid... naturally, I was excited.

I am trying to lose weight... I am 5'9" and 227lbs right now. I wear a size 16 in some pants. Tonight when I tried on the pants my neighbor gave me... both pairs didn't fit right. One came up and buttoned... making my fat bulge our. the other wouldn't even go over my gross ass. So.. what do I do?

Like a ****ing 5 year old... I ran up to my room crying. Bawling even.
I don't know how I let this number get to me. Instead of thinking " i can get into these"... i cry.

I at one point went from 268 to 195. And I was so happy. But then school got out... and I got myself up to 238. I lost some weight so far... but it's been so... SO hard. And so now I am telling myself that I blew my chance to lose the weight. I wasted my time losing that weight because look what I did to myself... I just gained half of it back.

I guess I could just use some pep talk. I try to eat low carb. No bread.. pasta... etc. Only sweets I have are the sugar free kind. I am working out every other day (3 miles on the treadmill). I guess to lose anything I have to do it everyday. I am just lost right now, and all I can do at this point tonight is cry.


:/ thanks for letting me rant.

derelict babe

first of all i'm very proud of you for all that exercise, not every diet fits everyone, and you should make sure you're diet works for you- i've been on so many diets through out my life i think i know the calorie chart by heart, if you'd like that i can help you figure out a menu you can live with (don't eat all that so- called dietetic bull**** it just makes us over- compensate). as regards to your training not every physical activity fits everyone find out if there isn't sort of training out there which will tempt you to do every day, i bought bicycle- and so far i'm having a great time. i found a link for you- it did me a lot of good when i started my last diet.

http://www.diet-i.com/weight_loss/exercise.htm (http://www.diet-i.com/weight_loss/exercise.htm)
and last but not least- i strongly recommend purchasing a pedometer

You have to put a positive spin on it: your past weight loss attempt was not a waste of time, just one of the many motions you have to go through in order to achieve long term weight loss. It took years and years for you to develop current eating and activity habits, so it most likely will take years to change them. You will have setbacks, but as long as you want it badly enough, you can stay on the right path to losing weight. Most of us here didn't start with one diet, lose all the weight, and go smoothly into maintenance. It's a slow transition of learning to make small changes that will last a lifetime.

When I was in highschool about 15 years ago I think I was the largest girl in the school, out of about 200 women. At the time it really got to me that at a size 16 I was just considered huge. I went on a diet and to the gym 6 times a week-- and got myself into a 14 finally... but I still thought I was huge. I weighed 165lbs then, had a 30" waist and still thought I was huge.

These days that size 16 has been downgraded to around a 14 thanks to vanity sizing-- and I realize that two of my best friends in New York who are both very attractive are 1 size smaller than that. They are 12s.

And I find myself thinking-- now that I'm getting closer to the same size I was at my fat weight in highschool (which is now called a 14) how come it is that no one around me seems as little anymore. Are my friends fat? No, no at all. Its just that what we think about size is all in our heads. As popular perception changes, so does the way we feel about out bodies.

So, feel good... those pants can fit... and just continue with the excercise... and maybe don't treat your 'diet' as such-- just decide that you're changing eating habits and excercise habits for life! AND that there is no deadline... be patient. You will get there!

first off, I saw your sarong shots, you're a hottie.

Second off: sizes are numbers. Numbers are completely arbitrary bullpoop measures of beauty.

That said, I can relate to what you're saying, because I'm trying to squeeze into my capris, which last summer were baggy (last summer I hated my body for being fat, so what the heck am I supposed to think of myself this year? Though the year before last, I would have killed to be in them...) and I'm thinking...ew. Yuck.

Thing is, you can't let yourself get thrown off track by a reasonably small setback, rather, you have a new goal to springboard toward... Possibly, Torrid sizing is screwy, possibly, the styles are wrong for your body type. But you could say to yourself, these particular 16s fit oddly...my goal is to see how they fit in 10 pounds! Ultimately, no harm done, you got some new clothes for free! It'd have been a shame if they fit right right away, forcing you to have to throw 'em out in a couple of weeks, right?

Hang tough!! You'll get there!

Sizes mean nothing. One of the biggest mistakes that women make is to try to squeeze into a certain size, just so that mentally they can tell themselves they're that particular size, and feel confident in what they're wearing. Of course, their fat bulges out and the pants/dress/whatever looks like crap, but it rarely occurs to them to go up one or two sizes and buy something that actually fits properly, hangs flatteringly, and makes them look slimmer.

I don't like the sound of your diet much. No bread or pasta or rice would kill me. Everything in moderation, surely. You're cutting out some of the main sources of easy energy for your body. I agree that you need to be careful with carbs, but cutting them out completely isn't the way to go. Trust me, I tried Atkins a few years back, and it made me seriously ill, and emotionally wretched to boot.

Allow yourself a reasonable portion of pasta or rice every now and again. I have a curry with a couple cups of rice once a week, and a large-ish portion of pasta with a sundried tomato and garlic sauce, and grated cheddar on top once a week. I also have 2 slices of granary wholegrain bread every day, a sandwich packed with chicken and salad/egg salad for lunch, and loads of fruit and veggies. Since December 21st, I've cut 7 inches off my boobs, 7 inches off my waist, and 8 inches off my hips. So, hey, I think that's proof that there's no big bad foodstuff out there that's going to sabotage your weightloss. The key is moderation and having a little of what you fancy. And don't workout every day, you'll get sick of it. Workout every day for 3 days, then rest on day 4, then workout for 3 days, rest one day etc. Break things up into manageable targets and remember that you're not superwoman. Extreme dieting and exercise never work, you've got to stick with something you can handle long-term. I've been dieting for 6 months now and I expect I'll need to diet for another 6 months to get to where I want to be... but that's okay because I know I can handle my 'regime' and also, as the weight comes off slowly, it'll hopefully be more likely to stay off.

So, think long-term. Don't think in terms of weight loss, think in terms of time. Say to yourself- I'll weigh myself in one month, or two months, or hey- even 6 months. I think that the key to diet success is to train yourself to think long term.