Why do others want to control us we must take charge of our on way of eating. we mus eat to live not live to eat.
We Just have stay on program and not worry about the others. Especially doing the holidays. I know it is easier said then done. We have taken cotrol life. I think often that scares others. Just let faimily and friends, know that they need to respect what you have choosen as a healther life choice. Let them feel uncomfortable if they choose. We have to choose what is best for us. Isn't it strange how when we ate too much other worried and often teased. Now they get offend if we not eat. I have inlaws who get offended if you dont stuff, when ever you eat at their house. I had my husband have a talk with them to let them know how commited to WW and eating right I am. So if the are upset at me for not pigging-out with the rest of them. It is their problem not mine. I have also decided not to do kitchen duty this time either. This is my first big hoilday since joining WW and I will not let other distroy what I am trying to achive. good luck to all. angelmom

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We are human :) All we can do is take one day at a time! One meal at a time! Today I can do this. ;)

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I think sometimes our friends and Family have gotten used to us "giving in" and taking those extra portions of food. I know with my family, they expect me to eat mass quantities of foods and go back for more..when I dont do that...they look at me differently. I guess the proof is in the pudding, so to speak. When we are living a healthy lifestyle, taking care of ourselves, it shows. I have felt plenty of times that the "eyes of the world" are upon me...those that know I'm trying to better myself are waiting to see me fail. I guess it's a good time to use the "chin up" method and just move ahead with my eyes on the goal. I know we can all do this! We are all worth our best efforts to make our dreams come true!
Peach

Now isn't that funny! I have the same problem, and here is what I do. I load my plate up with anything there that may be healthy like loads of salad, and then place a small serving of everything else, even if you have to put a large serving (BE STRONG, ITS NOT TO CONSUME JUST TO CAMOUFLAGE) then sit down and act like my normal pig self, start talkin about whatever, and before you've really eaten much get up and spoon on some salad, or the healthy dish. As long as they don't know, and you act like yourself, they really won't pay attention. Once they do know your watching what you eat or they see your being choosey, or have a small serving, There on you no matter what, You get critiqued. Like well try this it won't hurt your diet. Then they keep focusing on you and your diet. Try and take the focus off of yourself. Also at the end of the meal go rinse your plate off and say OH, I am so Full, we have been eating all day today. Whew!
I have done this and it works. It's unbelievable to me how people like to throw guilt on you for not eating. The nerve!

I found it interesting to read the posts that eminated the feelings I've gone through all too many times before.

I hesitate to even tell my family about the journey I'm on. You see, it can be offensive to others when you're trying to eat healthy... it is probably a natural subconscious reaction to sabotage the healthy eater's plan because THEY are not eating healthy themselves...

Don't you love the "Oh, but it's the holiday season, you can have a little piece." :)

It is bound to be a challenge around this time of year, but we can all do it - just PLAN!

:)

Happy times,
Bear

I believe when we finally make the decision to take control of our own lives (and our own health) those around us, whether they be well-meaning family or friends, see the areas in their own lives that need improvement. Our decision to *change* forces them to take a good hard look at themselves, and maybe that's painful. Don't let it distract YOU from reaching your goal however. TOWANDA!!!

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cissy (itsmecissy@yahoo.com)

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