Is it just my imagination or what??? Has anyone ever NOTICED in their work place where there are MEN and women working how MEN think they have control of the workplace. I telling ya I'm going through this at my job right now and HE'S not gonna like me before the week is through. I'm older than him and he very much treats me with disrespect. I gave the manager the option yesterday either HE walks or I do.. And it's definitely not gonna be me... He makes mistakes and he's quick to blame me instead of taking the blame himself. He works in the kitchen I work in the front as cashier. Sooo how can I be at fault for his cooking errors???? Please ladies share with me and assure me that I'm not the only one going through this.....

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bougiej@hotmail.com

I am sorry to hear that you are having to deal with the stress caused by this man. What is it that he is blaming you for? Give us some examples of how he shows disrespect?
Do you think it would help if you asked him to sit down for a few minutes and discuss the problems you are having with him and how it is making you feel? Just a suggestion. Keep us posted.

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Diane

This man sounds rude, immature and does not take responsibility for his own actions. Yes, there are still some men out there who have little respect for women and think they own the world. Fortunately for our children, this is changing by women like you speaking up and doing something about it!

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Joni

I work at a place with mostly men. there are 2 things you can do. Ignore him, Men hate being ignored, if you dont pay any attention to him at all, he'll leave you alone and do his job. Another thing you can do, and this may sound cruel, embarrass him in front of other co-workers. Men have lots of pride and when you damage it, he'll back off. It works for me.

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"To me clown are'nt funny. In fact they're kinda scary. I've wondered where this started, and I think it goes back to the time I went to the circus and a clown killed my Dad."
-Jack Handey, SNL

I think it's a man thing. They have to feel like they are in the ultimate position of control. Treat him like the child he's portraying. This is what I do to the domineering ones and it drives them crazy:

Just tell them (as if you'r a verrrry calm group therapy counselor talking to a bunch of ten year olds)
"If that's what you want to think, then its OK. You're ok, I'm ok. There are no right or wrong answers in the group."

Just keep telling him that over and over and over. It'll drive him nuts!
They HATE being treated like kids...especially in front of people.

Good luck and hang in there!

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This man sounds very insecure to say the least.
No matter what his problems are you are correct to demand respect !
Jade
Taking Life - One Day At A Time and One Pound At A Time

I am sure that others can see his behavior and know it is his problem not yours, I liked the other suggestions, my favoriate being just ignore him, men do hate that so much. I am fortunate, in my line of work it is mostly women. However I do once in a while run into a dominating personality, they try to make you look bad so they will look better, my best advice there is to just do your job the best you can, give them enough rope and he will hang himself.

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Sisnelly

:)I am completely the opposite (again!) I work with almost all women now and I hate it! Women tend to be catty, and petty, and gossipy (myself not excluded at times)! http://www.diettalk.com/uub//tongue.gif
Before I had kids, I worked for a huge company in a large office and had a pretty intense job. I worked mostly with men and I loved it. They seem to shoot from the hip more, and don't seem to get their feelings hurt over every little thing said.

The biggest benefit to working with mostly men (IMO) is that you don't have to go through 20 sessions of PMS every month, and you don't have to deal with 6 different women going through the change! Heck at work we can't even agree on what temperature the building should be kept at! :)

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Regards,
Big Bones (Bev)

Bev's Blob Blog (http://www.inhormoney.com/blob/blogger.html)

bevisnot@home.com

"Minutes at the table don't make you put on weight - it's the seconds."

Wow, I am the post after Big Bones again and I am in complete agreement with her. She is one wise lady!

I work in an all woman environment and while it could be much worse, it could be better. Being in the prestige goods industry, there is the whole pedigree that goes along with it. At my last job, the guys were great (except the boss) and the women were.. "special". I prefer working with men on the whole because as BB says, they are more down to earth, are less PMSed and less intense.

Joanne, maybe you should move, since you always seem to work with nasty people. Maybe it is in the water in Timmins?

Corinna

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"Every decision you make indicates what you believe you are worth."

I used to work with a dentist that tried to have total control of the office. He was an a**! He would even make the office manager cry every now and then. I realised how unhappy he was with his life and I would remind myself of this when he would act up. I would sometimes see him with his young sons and his whole diposition would change and I knew that deep inside was a good person. But unfortunately Men still put themselves up on a pedestal. Even if they are not aware of it. (most men anyway) But you gotta love them!!!!!

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Caroline
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I agree with big bones and Corrina..women are often too back stabbing whiny and catty..I prefer working with men...that is why the Army was a good choice for me. I have worked for men as well as women as well as had men and women working for me..I still prefer men.
Maybe because I am tougher than most women. Women tend to use lots of excuses to get out of work..OKAY NO ONE SLAM ME..I am talking in general and about the women I have encountered...there have also been a few really great women and of those that were really great they far exceeded the really great men..I just feel that when men have problems they suck it up and find a way to over come them while women want to whine around about it all and have others feel sorry for them..I suppose I am a proactive worker lets find the solution and put it into place then sit down and have a beer and discuss what a ***** it all was afterwards...hehee
:)

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Pamela
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Live!! This is not a Dress Rehersal!!

I just quit a job where I worked with a Woman just like this. She thought she was the boss, but she isn't. She tries to make every else look like they aren't doing their shair and that she is single handedly keeping the place running. Her mistakes are big and we just keep giving her line, and nothing happened! What else do you need? I proved I could outsell her, and then I quit. The company had already proved what kind of people they want working for them. So they deserve what they get stuck with.

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We are the authors of our own dreams.

Dream: Congrats for quitting! That took alot of courage. Good for you. I would sit and stew in it until I found another job.

Pamela: "Women" tend to have trouble working with people who on the same level as them. We see the pecking order, but hate those at our level. I guess we like to sit on our own perch alone. LOL. The is generalized, obviously. I work in an office full of women and we do just fine. Hehehehe.. Then again, I was back biten at this job too. Ugh.

Corinna



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"Every decision you make indicates what you believe you are worth."