Positive thinking can bring positive results.We always down ourselves because of our bodies and yet the first step to self-improvement is loving yourself. When you love yourself you do good things for you! That begins with seeing not only the negative but the positive as well. So how beautiful do you look? Be vain..it's okay :D
I have nice shapely legs
I have good skin
I have nice hair

"Postive thoughts bring positive results."
Babs :)


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Oh Babs!
This is going to be real scarey!! Be right back...

I'm back and guess what? That wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. So here goes...

1. I like my eyes. I never used to until I realized that I often get compliments on them. They are hazel like my Daddy's.
2. Well, I'm not too bad looking. Not extreemely attractive, but prettier than I ever gave myself credit for.
3. I guess I like my hair. I have a curly perm, and it looks pretty nice I suppose.

Whew!! I got through that one okay I guess? Did I pass your test? Do I get an A?

Cindy

P.S. Here is a quote that I thought was fitting for your little exercise:

"If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the whole world will not raise your price" Anonymous

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Babs, I am very depressed now. I am sorry to say that I cannot honestly find 3 things that I like! I can only say that I like my eyes, they are a very nice blue. Everything else I see needs so much improvement. I don't even like my hair! It's too fine and thin!

But I am a good person on the inside, I guess that counts for something, right?

Bekka

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Babs,,I'm glad you brought this topic up...It is important for us to find positive things about ourselves. Too much negativity never helped anyone.

finding 3 physical things can be hard..I do like some "inner" things...but physical? that's a toughie.

1. I like my hair. It's thick, curly..and fairly long. I like the color too...auburn
2. I like having breasts. there, I said it. They are sort of big..but not overpowering.
3. I like my hands..hubby calls them "baby hands"...cause they are small.

well,,there you go...that wasn't too painful..LOL

Lets keep on trying to find those good things about ourselves!
Peach

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Cindy: Do you see how really beautiful you are. The quote is perfect Cindy! You get an A+
Bekka: During depression it is hard to find beauty in ourselves but we can. Never let those around you make you feel less beautiful or less important than you are. You are beautiful on the inside too and remember no one can love you more than you!
Peach: I have baby hands too. My Mother always said "Barbry you will always have your beautiful little hands." Wasn't it nice to find that there are parts of you that are beautiful dispite the weight~ which is only a small part of who you are?
"Life is a work in progress."
Babs


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I feel just like Bekka, except that I don't even like my eyes.

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Welcome back Natural been a long time.

Babs I don't see nothing there but anger! sorry


Richard

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Ditto, Natural....I can't think of a single thing I like.

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3 things eh? hmmmm had to think about that for a while but i think..

1) i like my height ( im 6' so even though i feel like a beach ball alot of days my height makes me look skinnier than i really am..) haha

2) i like my butt 9 i think its the only tight thing left on me haha

3) i like my smile ( no cavities YET and im 27yrs old)

luvs-

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Babs I have a question....Is this naked or fully dressed? LOL. Ok well lets go for the fully dressed.
1. I too like my breast (I have plenty but do not mind)
2. My eyes.
3. My teeth because they are so straight that even my denitist does not believe I have never had braces.

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A couple of months ago I would not have been able to do this activity so here goes:

1) I have pretty eyes

2) I have nice legs for a big woman

3) I have a nice butt. Its big but I like it.

HEHE!!! Jeni

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Natural and Gepetto: Everyone has a special beauty. Each person is unique and there will never be another one in the whole world like you. Weight is not the sum of a person but only a part of the person. In order to do good things for yourself you first have to find the good inside and then work on the rest. I think you are beautiful :)
Rich: When you love yourself you can more easily understand people who don't and feel sorry for them that the only way they get attention is with snide remarks that hurt others.
Susan, Luv and Angelmommy: I am glad you found out that we all have something beautiful about us.
Babs

"We become what we think ourselfs to be."
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I LOVE me!

Good legs, smile, hair and....
I love my big 2l6 pound body! The whole package! It is warm and soft and cozy and curvy and voluptuous and sexy and rather pretty actually, in a Rubenesque sort of way! If it weren't for the media and our culture and the health problems, I wouldn't bother taking the weight off! I actually don't mind this at all! Its the outside world that dictates my unhappiness with my body, not me! Sometimes this attitude does NOT help!


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Joni

Babs -

I love this question. I think it is vital to see the positive before we can make changes on the rest! Of course seeing the good is not always easy.

For me today I like -

My eyes - they are dark and expressive.
My lips - nice shape & color
My general shape - I'll be fabulously curvy when I am thin.

Thanks for asking!

Gen



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Gepetto, could you really not find anything you like? Did you actually go to the mirror and take a little time and look? I know you're a kind-hearted person. Be kind to yourself too.

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Big Rich, are you having a difficult time with this because of your episode at the Dr's office? I'm sure you would be able to pick out some things you like about yourself if you weren't so down right now. Maybe when you are able to let go of some of the anger you could have your wife point out some of the features she loves most. Hope tomorrow looks a little brighter for you.

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Having a rough time here.... don't even want to look in the mirror. This is a great exercize, babs, but I'm not there right now. Sorry.....

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Here's to healthy and happy!

Dj

Hey Mel that guy was an IDIOT and I'm over that but there is still nothing but anger in the mirror. Sorry


Later Rich

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Babs, Good subject!
Let's see 3 things I like about me?
1) My face (I like my features except for breakouts, I'm 35 when is this ever going to go away?).
2) My shape, I have a sexy figure when I'm slim. My husband still likes it. :)
3) My smile :)

Guys, Please don't be so hard on yourself! God doesn't make junk! Your all so special! Beauty starts on the inside. My main goal in life is to be a good kind hearted person and that starts on the inside :)

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Have a blessed can do Successful day!

I want to thank all of you for responding to this post. I am on a journey of self discovery and this was one of my lessons. I really believe that self-improvement begins with self acceptance. For those of you who saw your beauty dispite your weight issues I say bravo! For the ones who didn't I say you are beautiful because I've seen your words and words speak a thousand things about your soul. Therefore thank you all for helping me and I love and believe in all of you!
Babs



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Me Me I am next...
I love my eyes in them I see a soul seeking to grow...
I love my lips...I am seeking to make them more kind, and my hubby calls them lovely.
I love my hair even though it grows grayer every day it shows I am allowed to grow older..

Gepetto in you a see a sense of humor that warms the hearts of others..
Big RIch in you I see a spirituality in which you seek to spread Good News.
DJ in you I see gentle caring which soothes the pain of others...
Bekka in you I see a spirit seeking to grow and an endless humor.
Natural I don't know you but I am sure that you have good points you are here so you are seeking to improve yourself that is a wonderful thing too..

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I like what I'm seeing in the mirror these days :) I watch myself exercise every day and I see how it's changing my body for the better. The three things I like the most are:
1) my hair
2) the dimple in my ribcage
3) my yellow rose tatoo on my leg

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Hi!

1. I have a great smile I'm told.
2. I have pretty blue eyes.
3. I have a great butt when it shrinks a bit more! *w*

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I am having a hard time with this one. Years ago, I considered myself to be pretty - and took great pride in my appearance, clothing, accessories, the whole bit. My husband, bless his soul, still thinks so but it's harder for me to agree these days.
I can say that my children adore me, that my personality is wacky and fun and that people tend to like to be around me......despite my weight.

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Believe that you are capable of accomplishing anything, however difficult it may seem.

Hmm this is a good exercise for our souls..and even though Babs has grown..some of us still need to post what we see..hope that is ok with you Babs..you started something wonderful and we want to keep it rolling..

3 things I see that I like..

My eyes..they are hazel but turn green when I am upset.

My hair ..it is straight and a beautiful brown color.

My lips..my husband loves them.

Thank you for allowing me to love myself..even just for this moment!

~D~

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You all sound so pretty :) It's always better to concentrate on the positive rather than the negative. You improve what you can, accept what you can't and enjoy what you have been blessed with. For instance my flat butt http://www.diettalk.com/uub//mad.gif I don't like it but I can't change it because it's a genetic thing. I don't like my weight either but I can change that. Along the way I can bat my geogeous blue eyes and get lots of compliments on them so hey I'm not so bad :)
Mer: The body is not the sum of a person..only a part of them. Do you wear mascara? Then you like your eyes..do you use creams on your skin? Then you must have nice skin because you take care of it. I believe, in time, if you really look you will find positive things about yourself Mer :)
"Positive thoughts bring positive results."Babs

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Babs, here is take 2:
Woke up this fine morning and dyed my hair (goodbye grey, hello very dark brown)
blew it dry, wore a plum blouse topped with a velvetty vest -floral print of blues and deep pink, put on some tailored navy pants. Added a delicate gold necklace with 2 pearls, drenched myself in Clinique Aromatics Elixer, put on plum lipstick and gazed slowly at my reflection in the mirror.
And here are the results for the jury:
I have very green eyes, dark shiny hair, full lips and great skin. When nicely dressed, I look pretty terrific.
Having lost 3 pounds this week was also a mood lifter!


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Believe that you are capable of accomplishing anything, however difficult it may seem.

Good for you, Mer!! 3 pounds is great! And I'm sure you look beautiful, too.

And thank you, Pamela..... that was really nice!

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Here's to healthy and happy!

Dj

Dj I am Honest ..NOT NICE...don't start any rumors here..hehee

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Pamela
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Live!! This is not a Dress Rehersal!!

Big Rich: Thanks for the welcome back, you'll be hearing from me just as soon as I find what you were telling me about.

Babs: Thanks for the reminder, I needed that, and I hope it helped Gepetto as well.

Gepetto: Heed what Babs said and sooner or later we will see something we both like ;)

All I can say Mer is...Ohh La La! You musta' looked pretty fine! :D Now see how much better you feel already? A little vanity never hurts :)
"Positive thoughts bring positive results."
Babs

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Mer, I can see you now! You're a cutie, that much we've known all along!!! Isn't it amazing what 3 pounds can do for our outlook and disposition? Congrats on this great success!!

Natural...where the heck you been? Welcome back!!

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Joni

I love my hair
I like my eyes
I like my smile

Eyes and smile combined = great flirting weapons. :D

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Three things that I see in the mirror and I like... this is difficult. Two I can say fairly easy.

1. my hair. It is naturally curly and really thick. And it has a mind of its own... But in 26 years I have come to terms with it and I actually love my hair. If nothing else it gives me character.

2. my eyes. They are green but have brown almost golden star in them. (If I could only find someone who would like to look in them.... :))

3. ok this is a difficult one. I guess I have to say my hand. I have really long fingers, almost like pianists have (and I do not even play any instrument)and they are skinny (probably the only skinny part in me at the moment :D).

So I found the three things I like.

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Massie: I am so glad you know you have many attractive things about you other than the weight thing. Personally from your pic. I think you are very attractive :)
Anu: Do you notice you see three things you like but out of them you take two and give yourself negative feedback. You say "I like this but.......gotta get rid of those negatives and react to the positives positivily :D
"Positive thoughts bring positive results."
Babs


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Great question to make you think.....

1) I have excellent skin.

2) Even though they have a few scars, I like my hands...they help me do so many things I enjoy doing.

3) I like my sense of style.

I guess that's it right now. But it is keeping me thinking!

Trynya/Jamie

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Thank you Babs, you are so sweet!

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Thank you Babs for running such a positive post. I think this is a good exercise even though I'm finding it difficult like many others. The three things I like best about myself when I look in the mirror are..

1) My eyes- they change from blue to green depending on what I wear.

2) My legs- I work hard to keep them muscular and shapely even though I still dream of thigh transplants.

3) My smile- The most attractive thing anyone can wear is a smile.



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Isabella :)

Good for you both! In a world of so much negative feedback from the general "lean" population I sometimes think we always tend to see ourselves in a negative way so much that we forget we have good qualities about ourselves just like everyone else does.
If we can just concentrate on those things we will have better self esteem and maybe win this war on fat once and for all!
"Positive thoughts bring positive results." :)
Babs

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Well, I guess I can answer this one:
1. I like my hair - naturally curly and dark brown.
2. I like my eyes - big and brown :)
3. I like my hands/wrists and feet/ankles - they are very small for someone my size.

There! I did it! I could list more, but don't want to get to deep! :D

Here are my top 3 things

1) My teeth. They are straight and clean
2) My calf muscles are great for my mini skirts
3) I am very statuesque
4) I have nice cleavage

When I look in a full length mirror,

I see a nice set of lower legs (the thighs are too big),

I see pretty and honest eyes, and

I see alot of determination, and resolve to conquer this weight problem.....

OK Babs, this was a toughy!

Three things I like when I look in the mirror:

1) My eyes, us women and the eyes! But these eyes can flash the greatest flirt, the sadest sympathy, and the hottest anger.

2) My legs. My calves are very muscular and despite my weight, my thighs are not excessively huge (at least I don't think they are and that is all that matters, right?)

3) My breasts, as long as I am fully clothed. Since I got burnt almost a year ago, it has been hard for me to appreciate them and see them for what they are. But they are beautiful and not too big, but also not too small, so I look evenly proportioned with my weight!

Thanks for the exercize Babs, it is really something to be able to find something positive about yourself when sometimes you feel so down on everything.

As for the guys that can't find anything positive, look deeper into that mirror and I beat you find something there. Otherwise email me your pic and I will tell you all the great things about you! Send me a private message if you would like to send your pic to me! Hope everyone is having a great week! :o

This is a hard one! But I can do this.
My eyes are dark and mystrious
I have a classic beautiful shape to my face

This is a hard one! But I can do this.
My eyes are dark and mystrious
I have a classic beautiful shape to my face
And I have the shape of body that you'd find in one of Remnbant's Paintings, though I don't wish to be as big as those ladys.

Wow.... I started reading this from the beginning and thought "WOW lots of people that have left are coming back here..."

......then I looked at the original dates and saw this was over a year old..... *sigh* and I still hate looking in the mirror.

I've just got done reading all the posts in this forum and it was great inspriation. Here goes three things i like about me.

1. I have a crooked smile. My lower lip slants down to the side and I think it's really unique.

2. my glasses. I've been wearing glasses since I was 6 years old, and I think there a true part of who I really am.

3. my hair. It's a golden brown with a natural wave in it. and the best part no gray hair yet LOL

I know this post was started quite awhile but it is a good exercise for everybody to do.

The three things that I like are:

1. I have a lovely smile with nice straight teeth.

2. I have gorgeous blue eyes.

3. I have long, straight, light brown hair and during the summer I get lovely blonde highlights.