I lost 8 pounds in the first 2 weeks of Jan and felt pretty good because I have also been working out. People were complimenting me and saying how good I was looking ect... I was feeling good about myself so I started letting some of the old habits crept back in. Now I have gained 5 pounds back and although I am still working out and have lost some inches I keep looking at those scales and feeling horrible. Some days I do not even bother to put on makeup or make a fuss with my hair because I figure whats the use. I want people to notice when I lose weight but why in the world would I think I could go back to my old ways and eat like I do not have a weight problem? I still have a long ways to go before I get even close to my goal. I sabatoge myself. Does anyone else do this?

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Susan40,

Of course other people do this; that's why most of us are here. but let me offer you my humble thoughts.

EVERYONE has a weight problem. If we eat too much and move too little, its a problem. On the other hand, if we eat too little and move too much, it's also a problem!

I've only known one woman in my lifetime who never thinks about her weight - and that's because she has weighed between 130 and 135 pounds her whole adult life (she will be 65 in October) by eating a well-balanced, low-fat diet every single day, and walking two miles regardless of the weather. It's like she has Richard Simmons "Deal-A-Meal" engraved on her brain!

You would think I could have learned from her over the years. But come Christmas, I bake those cookies - and eat them. Come birthdays, I bake those cakes - and eat them. Picnics? Yum! Holiday meals. YUMYUM! (Oh, Harriett; how do you do it?!)

All we can do is what we are prepared to do at the moment. Every day that I come here to DT I find myself more and more prepared to face "the problem" and deal with it. I hope you find the same strength here.

Hugs,
ThinLynn

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BLOOM WHERE YOU'RE PLANTED!

Oh, susan, I know EXACTLY where youre coming from! I even posted this some question several weeks ago, b/c i do it too. I Loose weight, and feel like its ok to eat a candybar or french fries, b/c HEY! I lost weight! After reading some replies to my post I realized with everyones help that what I was doing was rewarding myself for loosing weight WITH FOOD! THe whole reason I am over weight is b/c I look at good food as a reward, and something fun to do! After I realized this I started thinking differently.Food is not a reward anymore. I cant remember who said it, but it was very plainly put; look at food only as fuel for your body, nothing else!
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That is exactly what I do. It all stems from my scale.

When I weigh myself and I have lost weight I tend to reward myself with a meal out, or if I haven't lost weight I eat cuz I am upset.

For me it is just best if I stay off the stinking scale. Cuz either way I want to eat something.

Carmine


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Yep susan I say ditch the scales and just go by measurements. I've sabotaged my diet quite a few times in recent years and it's just a normal phase we go through... You are not alone.

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bougiej@hotmail.com

Ya know what's funny? I've lost 30something pounds and nobody says a word to me...LOL! But, yes, been there and done that....many times over. Thought this time would be different, thought there was nothing that would send me back to the old ways....but I was wrong. All it took was the flu...RFLMAO! But at least I got back up and started again after only putting 6 pounds back on. They tell me ya just can't ever give up...so I reckon I won't...this time...hehehe. Hang in there, girlfriend!

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Robbie

The road to success leads through the valley of humility, and the path is up the ladder of patience and across the wide barren plains of perseverance. As yet, no short cut has ever been discovered.
Joseph J. Lamb

[This message has been edited by robbie (edited 01-28-2001).]

Oh, Susan, I thought that was me who wrote this post! I too lost 8 lbs since Jan 2, but have let it go to heck lately and I know I've gained, just don't know how much cause I'm afraid to get on the scale. I will, however, get on it tomorrow, because I AM getting back on track. No more fooling around.

Bekka

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yes, you are not alone. I have gone through this my self. And boy do I wish I didn't have work so hard to maintain, but I do. I lost 92 lbs last year, and boy I really worked hard at it. Walked 1-3 hours a day which is about 3-10 miles a day. M-F. Also did some Aerbics, weights, kickboxing, toning, and lite yoga. 3-4 times a week. I will be glad to get back to that. I miss it. Had surgeries and have been off my feet a lot, and had some swelling. Gained 10lbs back. I got 6 lbs below goal, so I am 4-5 lbs above goal. Once I go for my check up, I will get back into my routine. And can't wait for spring. Lucky today we were in the high 40's. HEAT WAVE for us. But you will get past this. We all go through this. I still do. Maintaining is sometimes just as hard if you are not as active as you were. Once I had surgery, I knew I would gain a little. I expected it. Take care and we are all here for each other. Keep posting & reading. It does help and keeps you truthful to your self. Great motivation too.
Stacey

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Thank you everyone for you feedback and support. I does help to know I am not alone. I thought this was going to be the week where I could get my head straight but I have found myself wollowing in self pity for being so fat so yes I have done what I guess everyone of you have done too and that is eat. I guess I have to stop with thinking well there is always tomorrow and look at it as when I fall down I need to get back up and not wait for tomorrow because there is always some excuse. I have advoided my daily weigh in this week and think I will do that next week also and see how it goes. Again thanks .....you are all such kind and caring people. Take care.
Susan

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Robbie you know something at first people never said anything about my weight loss either but after when they did say something it would start off good and then followed by are you ill??? Why must people assume we have to be ill to lose weight??? Meaning they thought I was starving myself. I would comment by saying Come to my house and watch what I eat???

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bougiej@hotmail.com

Just keep at it Robbie and don't give up. About 5 years ago nobody said a word to me either until one hot summer day I drove down into town with a black one piece shorts outfit. Backless and sleeveless!! Believe me..they noticed :D It was my crowning moment!!
Babs :)

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