I guess i had better put my goal in now, so that i don't shy away from it, and regain my weight again. I started at 198 pounds, currently weigh 169.4 pounds, hoping to get to about 163 pounds or so. I/m not really sure yo be honest that is what makes it so hard, but i know that 163 is about the middle for my height/weight ratio. Though i have lost a lot of weight i still have my problem areas, especially my stomach, to help this i now do 100 sit ups on mon, wed and fri. Reading the posts here and making the occasional (very occasional lol) comment has definitely helped me. My goal now is just to have a firm and pretty toned stomach.

I'd just like to make this point, are we all losing weight for the right reasons or not? I know im not, im doing it so ppl will see me as a different person, not the overweight person they had seen. I'm doing it so ppl will say isn't he cute, instead of laughing at me, or just plain ignoring me. I just want to say this world sucks in relation to making ppl feel bad, because they don't have the right figure.

Ouch, Aussie boy! That hurts! Truth often does. But you are only mentioning l/2 the truth. The rest of it might be that you want to be back in your natural body, the one that lets you move and feel your most fluid, your most free. When we can feel like this, we can then put our energy into our creativity, our families, our businesses, and stop putting so much energy into our fat. I apologize if I am way off base here. Your reasons are valid, but there are often deeper reasons too. I'll bet those are running around inside you too. Keep going, you are doing so well!

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Discomama

hi aussie boy!
glad to see a post from you again!
unfortunately there are some people in this world who judge us on our appearance but i have learnt from experience that those people arent worth knowing anyway.
you need to want to do this for you in order to succeed, if you are doing it for others to like you i think you will find the going really hard.
you are a wondeful person whether you are 1000 pounds or 163 pounds! after all you are still you right?
learning to like yourself inside is what i still struggle with despite being at goal. losing weight doesnt resolve the deeper issues they will still be there.
good luck to you! i know you can do it!
hugs belinda in brisbane :D

Reading your post made me sad in a way. It is true that people can be cruel but some people will always have negative attitudes about others whether they are overweight or just have on the wrong clothes.
I guess I must be thick skinned because I have always been the type of person who doesn't really care what others think about me except for the people I love and those who love me in return.
I know myself, my faults as well as my virtues and if no one can appreciate them or accept them then what am I missing out on as far as they're concerned? I have been a size 26 and a size 11 and still I have always valued myself for many reasons other than my size.
I wish you luck though and I hope you succeed. Love ya, Babs

"One meal, one day at a time"

Discomama, Way to go! That is so true! What if all the money, time and energy we all spend on our appearances were spent mentoring children or ending world hunger?! But I am as shallow as anyone! :D I think if I don't lose this weight and look good I will never meet Mr. Right (or at least Mr. Close Enough) tho Aussie_Boy sounds kinda hot...just being silly! Sorry!

I want my dignity back. I want my self-esteem. I want to walk into a room and not have the first thing everyone thinks to be,"look how fat she is!" And I want men to think I'm pretty, I admit it.

The funny thing is, I have always been fat, and I have always had a boyfriend. Not all losers, either (I've had my share, though! :D)
My ex-husband said that there are lots of guys who prefer women a little more voluptuous but they never talk about it because they would be ostracized.

I bet, Aussie, that you would be surprised at what women find sexy. I personally like a guy on the stocky side...or I like his beautiful eyes or a shy smile...and if he can make me laugh and make me think...oh I'm a goner!

Anyway, keep up the great work! It is nice to hear from a guy on this subject. You are an inspiration. Love, Heather

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Never give up, Never give in! Stay the course day by day, You're sure to win!

Aussie by the sounds of it you sound very cute already. AND I especially admire your sheer determination and I just LOVE your accent.. whooohooo..

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bougiej@hotmail.com

Well this post seems to have got a lot of messages all of a sudden so I thought I would respond. There are now two reasons for my weight loss, to have a healthier body and to be fit enough to join the armed forces. I'd particularly like to be a pilot, but if that doesn't happen I don't mind, anything would do.

You are all right by the way, we are attractive no matter what size or shape we are, sometimes you just need reminding of that. I was just having a bit of whinge that day I made the post. Sometimes you just feel terrible, and think it's pointless, no matter what you do you will always be the same.

I know perfectly well the reason why ppl are cruel. I remember before i put my weight on that I used to tease and make fun of people. I'm not proud of it now, in fact im quite ashamed by it. When I started receiving the taunts, and I realised how bad I felt, I also realised what I put others through. I am now much more caring when it comes to other ppl's feelings, and hate to see ppl that are hurting inside.

This whole post doesn't really have much direction, but it is what im currently thinking and feeling, so please put up with me. Anyway good luck to everyone out there.

hi aussie boy
good luck with getting into the armed forces, i am sure that you would be a great asset to australias defence force!
as with anything in life its only when we walk in another persons shoes, that we realise how much a comment or a snide remark can hurt and damage someones self esteem.
good luck with your journey to happ and healthy. coming here to vent is good. it helps sometimes to get your feelings out there instead of bottling it up.
hugs belinda :D

Now that is better! We can't change other people Aussieboy, only ourselves. Everyday I work on myself to be the best that I can be in every way. Sometimes I do okay sometimes not.

One day my brother, who had no legs due to amputation, fell off his motorized scooter coming down a hill. He lay there for 1/2 an hour before someone stopped and helped him up. We were very angry at the time but then decided to just be grateful for the one and forget about the many.

I wish everyone could be like that one person but it's not going to happen. So the next time you are hurt by many just concentrate on the one who does not. Who knows. Then you may become the one and someone you know may become the one and then the world will be a better place!

Love ya, Babs